Thinking about sharing my wife for the first time...

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Cap_Jcup, May 31, 2017.

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Should I just go ahead and let someone surprise fuck her?

  1. Yes

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  2. Absolutely not

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  1. Cap_Jcup

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    Ok, so me and my wife have been together for a little over 10 years now... Since I was 16 and she was 15. And we are completely happy together and we absolutely love one another. Beyond the shadow of a doubt. My wife is just so amazing: she's completely selfless, never nags or bitches, works her ass off, and still has time for me and our daughter. Words just can not express how incredible she is and how lucky I truly am to be able to call her mine. Even more so considering she is absolutely gorgeous and incredibly sexy... Plus she has an amazing pussy: beautiful and tight as hell... And in the ten years we've been together, she's only done one thing to hurt me... She cheated on me while I was out of town for two and a half months. And within days of me coming back home, she told me voluntarily. I had no suspicions or anything. I was completely oblivious. If she hadn't have chosen to come clean, I seriously would have never known. And at first, the shit hurt like hell; literally the worst pain I have ever felt. It had me crying like a bitch, over and over. And when I cried, she cried. But then the craziest freaking thing started to happen: I would find myself fantasizing about it whenever we would have sex or I would masturbate. And it really turned me on. I mean, when we were teenagers, we would talk dirty about threesomes and about her fucking another guy. Then one day, we just stopped... But now, I think about it all the damn time. We've talked about during sex a few times, and everytime she really got all hot and worked up over it. I know she likes the idea. But I think she just feels so bad about cheating on me that she is scared of how I would react if it actually happened. But I know that I would be fine... I honestly have no idea why, but I want to watch my wife fuck another guy. But she's too scared to go for it. So I've thought about just tying her to the bed and blindfolding her, and just surprising her with it. One night while we were having sex, I told her that I was going to do it one day, and she got really wet and asked me to please do it... So, my question is, would it be a bad idea if I just went ahead and did it one night? Cause I really really want to watch as she gets fucked. I'm tired of fantasizing about her cheating on me. And I just know that if she lets herself, she will love it. I just think she wants absolute plausible deniability. So what do you guys think? Would it be fun for all or one big shit storm? Thanks for taking the time and reading this. I realize it's pretty long...
     
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  2. lbushwalker

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    Well you are risking a lot dude but if that rocks your boat and you think that you can live with the consequences then why not?
    The way you describe her makes me wish it could be me fucking her blindfolded but the instant I touched her she would know and not because of my size.
    So I voted absolute not!
     
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    Communicate with her about it and plan. Don't just do it or set it up
     
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    Of course it's entirely up to you. You both seem to be turned on by the idea. But what caught my attention is "plausible deniability". That is used to avoid guilt from doing something you think is inappropriate. I think you guys need a lot more open and honest discussion. If it happens, it needs to be something you both want; are fully aware it's happening; and ready to accept the baggage that comes with it. If it turns you guys on, then go for it. But I wouldn't do the "surprise" scenario.
     
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    If it's what you both want then go for it. And it you are in the UK, I'm willing to help ;)
     
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    Communication, rules, TRUST, what if one partner ends up wanting it more than the other? What if one of the partners decide to try it alone?

    Points to consider.
     
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    I have been the outside man for couples, fucking wives with their husbands present, since I was a teenager. I have 3 regular couples now. You must know that you are not alone. Many many husbands have that fantasy, and many many wives have it as well, especially with couples who have been together since they were young.

    Now I want to tell you something from experience. the odds are very bad for your tie-up fantasy. It could be very brutalizing for her unless you talk about it before hand and tell her that it is really going to happen. Dude, your jealousy got the better of you the last time, when you could have easily used her honesty as a good opening to have a full discussion of your desires. Now you have to do the work to create a really open conversation about your fantasy. She has to know that your reaction the last time was a one off. In order to go further with her, she has to know that you have realized how much you want her to enjoy sex with other men, and she really has to believe you. That is your job.

    Then my advice is forget the rope and get a good experienced bull to fuck her beautifully, the way we know how to do. If you proceed with honesty and respect, you have non idea what a great sexual experience you both can have.
     
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    Women have a little more trouble wrapping their head around this idea. I suspect a lot of it has to do with being a 'slut' and acting outside social norms. That's probably why she want's you to set this up. She doesn't want to be involved with the search or planning as it puts her in the place she fears.
    For my wife to accept it, she saw a therapist and talked about group sex. She came home after just one session and said she was ready for it.
    She really was. It was amazing watching her respond to another cock, and 2 cocks, 2 men, her the center of attention.
    I think a common thought after the first time is 'why did we wait so long'. You guys are going into his early. Many hot horny years ahead!
     
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    I will join Alex on that one!
     
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    I agree with the others that communication and planning is the key. If you have an MFM threesome, you and the other guy can team up to give her maximum pleasure. You can suck her tits while he fucks her, and then slide your cock into her pussy lubricated with the other guys cum. One poster mentioned that some women feel slutty when being sexually adventurous, but that's ok when she's enjoying her sexuality any way she wants. One thing that wasn't mentioned- How would she feel watching you fuck another woman?.
     
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    Personally, I think if she said " yes, please do it", she probably wants you to do it. She probably needs that plausible deniability to ward off the feeling that you will get jealous again if she enjoys sex with another, especially if you're present. If you handle watching her getting fucked and not get all bent out of shape, then odds are in your favor that she'll let you set up more meetings in the future. But jealousy will kill the deal. She sounds open just enough to being shared that you should make the move. Have a drink or two, and keep the smiles and giggles throughout and you'll be fine. After the first one, it gets way easier.
     
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    The morning after our first MFM we were cuddled up in bed, and she asked if I was ok with what we did. YES! I asked her the same, and she timidly said yes, but did I think she was too slutty. I told her hell no, it was freakin hot, and what's wrong with being slutty? You say slut like its a bad thing. I was hard by now, so I rolled over on top of her and sank my cock into a very wet pussy. Reclaimed her!
     
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    My wife and i had an open relationship while we were dating. I knew she was dating and having sex with other men. I knew one of the guys personally. So I started to fantasize about what they might be doing and it turned me on a lot. When I was with her I would wonder what she was doing with him and was always looking for evidence she had been with him recently. After getting married we started talking about him a lot during sex. Her stories turned us on a lot, but she said when she was with one of us she never thought about the other. If she masturbated she only thought of one of us, never ever the three of us together. But I talked her into having a threesome with him and he was agreeable. I remember how nervous I was that first night. How would I react to them having sex right in front of me? I loved the fantasy, but would I love the reality as much, how would I react to her orgasm with him?
    So she came walking out of the bedroom in her shear nighty, showing all her assets and she sat down between us and leaned over and kissed me. She then turned to him and he kissed her and she responded with passion like she had not to me in years. She started rubbing his cock through his pants. In a moment he had her on the floor licking her pussy. I had seen porn like this, but this was my wife and guy going at it like I was not in the room. He had his cock about half way in her when she came. She never screamed like that with me. She got up on her knees undid my pants and started sucking on me, while he mounted her from behind. I came in a couple of minutes, and he came a few minutes later. We then all stripped off and moved to the bedroom and played around together. The interesting thing, I enjoyed watching them fuck, but it bothered me to watch them kiss. When we were dating I thought we were making love and she was just having sex with him. I discovered the fact that when she was in bed with him she was totally in the moment with him and making love with as much passion as she was with me. They were lovers. Buf by the end of our third love making session that night the three of us were totally comfortable with the whole situation. We had him back in our bed many times. He never came looking for her when I was not home. He always waited for us to call him and set something up. I eventually allowed my wife to visit him alone.
    So my advice is to warn you about that first night, would be, that you might have some unwanted emothional responses. When you first see your wife naked with him, when they touch, when they kiss, and when she cums with him the first time, second time, and third time riding his dick that is several inches longer than yours. If you can do that, then you and your wife are going to have a lot of fun. If you can't you are probably are not going to be married long. Are you willing to take that risk? As for me I knew that my wife had slept with him for over a year, but for some reason she chose to marry me over him. There was no doubt she enjoyed sleeping with him, but there was something more important than that for her when it came time to decide who she wanted to spend her life with.
    We no longer have sex with him, but the experience still spices up our love life considerable.
     
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    Very well said! Great description of the emotional roller coaster of seeing your wife with another man.

    One thing I'll add.......I really got off on watching them kiss. My wife LOVES kissing and it really heats her up. I wanted them to make love and not just fuck. If I want to see an emotionless romp I can watch porn. The three of us truly cared for each other.....not a random stranger just pounding my wife. Watching them kiss was all,part of the experience.
     
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    Why tie her up? Why not just have the guy walk in while you are getting started? Or have him there from the start re plan it.

    I am a bit envious, as it is a real big fantasy of mine to watch my wife suck and fuck another guy. She knows it and we have discussed it, but so far she is “too shy.” But I think about it daily and please myself to the thought of it regularly. So you are not alone or weird for having the fantasy.

    I look forward to hearing how it works out.
     
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