I've noticed a few posts on this forum and another about orgasm by thought and some people have asked me how to do it. Here is step by step, my tantric meditation routine. I hope you enjoy it. I wrote this for men, but it should work for women as well, just replace "PC muscle" with whatever the female orgasm muscle is. I've searched for the name, but couldn't find it. It's the muscle that handles the contractions during your orgasm. For men: Your PC muscle is located at the base of your penis directly underneath you. It's between your testicles and your butt. It's the same muscle you use to urinate and you'll know it when you contract it. For women: Yours is a little higher. It's located near the front of your vagina near your g-spot. Again, you'll know it when you compress it. If you're not sure, give yourself an orgasm by hand (or spouse) and take note of which muscles are contracting. Step 1: Lock myself in my room and take off all of my clothes, turn out the lights. Mute your computer so a random IM doesn't distract you. Distractions are just as bad in meditation are they are for sex. Step 2: I lay on my back with my eyes closed and do a deep breathing exercise. I've posed my technique here. Make sure at the end of this that you mind is clear. Step 3: Tantric Yoga: First Position: Still on your back lift your legs straight up in the air. Put your arms under your back to support yourself. Flex your PC muscle fro 15 seconds, release it for fifteen. Repeat 5 to 10 times. Second Position: Go into full lotus position. If you aren't flexible enough, then indian position should work fine. Pulse your PC muscle for a minute or two, keep your eyes closed and your mind empty. Your pulses should be just slower than the rate at which they contract for an orgasm. Third Position: Increase your heart rate first, do this by doing shallow breathing. Now you can allow thoughts back into your mind. They should be very sexual. Flutter your PC muscle. Do this for several minutes, the entire time very sexual thoughts should be going through your head. Not so much images as feelings, think about how the best sex you ever had felt. You are still in lotus position and should have an erection due to the thoughts and the increased heart rate. Last Position: Go back on your back, keep your eyes closed and now is the time to visualize yourself having sex. Best sex you've ever had with the most gorgeous woman that you can picture. Flex your thighs and your PC muscles. Leave your PC muscles flexed, fluttering them every thirty seconds or so until you feel as if you're about to orgasm. Step 4: Pulse your PC muscles to the rhythm of your orgasm, keep the sexual thoughts in your mind while you do. The voluntary pulses will turn into involuntary ones as you have just tricked your mind into thinking it's having an orgasm. Technically you are even though you are not ejaculating. Step 5: Do another round of meditation. This is not critical, but it will slow your breathing and get your heart rate back down. You don't want to sit up immediately after something like that. It'll give you a head rush. This may not work the first couple times, especially if you haven't had very much sex or are a virgin. This strengthens your PC muscles and it seems that they have to be a certain strength in order to to the final orgasm. But that strength will come quickly. A stronger PC will also result in much stronger real orgasms during sex or masturbation.