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Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by HotForHoney, Jun 24, 2014.
Has anyone been in a sexless relationship and changed it into a relationship with sex?
If so, how?
Twice. It became sexual as an extension of sharing very intimate conversation.
there was this girl in the states that came close but she moved.....
I don't know so I wait for the answer. I'm watching this thread
A relationship that has always been platonic ?
Or one that was sexual and isn't anymore?
We were very good friends, she was my wife's best friend, with a married couple (J & G) for over 5 years, with no sexual interaction of any kind between her and me although she was very attractive.
When it became just 'I' they were both very supportive and for over 8 months I had many conversations with both her and her husband about my 'situation' and some very personal ones with just her. Then they invited me to go on holiday with them and one morning when he had left early to go fishing and I was still in bed J dressed in just her gown brought me coffee, unexpectedly, and caught me in an aroused state.
She treated it as if there was nothing to it and said that she understood how frustrated I must be after nearly 9 months celibacy because she was the same as she and G hadn't had sex for over two years. There was then a very uninhibited conversation about mine and her frustration.
Then straight out of the blue she asked if I wanted 'no strings sex' as we both needed it and it would be good for both of us. To add to her 'incentive' she took her gown off to show 'what was on offer'.
In my aroused state, with my 'need', her attractiveness and that it was what she obviously wanted as well, my conscience was none existent - we had 'no string sex' for the rest of that holiday whenever we got the chance and continued to do so, at varies times..................... she became, by mutual agreement, what is commonly know as my fb ......... and was, until I stopped it earlier this year, 18 years on.
Of the female friends I've had, if she was simply a friend, she wasn't smoking hot, therefore, no sexual interest in the first place... so no, never had one go to the next level.
Just to be clear, are you asking if the sexless relationship changed back to one with sex (same partner)? or if it moved to one with sex (different partner)?
Be interested in finding out more.
So, will be following the thread.
Same relationship - husband/wife sex/no sex.... Can there be sex again? How?
My burning question.
Been in a sexless relationship for years and it's not moving forward at all. Don't know if it will ever will...
I hope to never get to the sexless part.
Not happened to me but I have spoken to a few. Generally women get put off sex by their husbands being unromantic, lazy or not caring for appearance or sexual boredom. One cure is that women can get a higher libido when they get older due to declining estrogen, and this may sparken things up a big. Husband romancing his wife again I know can work.
Generally sexless marriages didn't have a whole lot of mutual, erotic attraction in the first place, so in most cases it's a lost cause.
When the boyfriend and I realize that our sex life is slipping, we quickly go into our three-point program:
1. Stress reduction.
2. Plenty of sleep.
3. Setting aside some time for "us."
Setting aside time for 'us' could be a date for sex, and we did this when the children were young and we do it now because my wife works shifts. It does keep things going along when they may otherwise falter.
Unfortunately these suggestions, while good, are suggestions for "avoiding" the sexless marriage as opposed to "changing" a sexless marriage. I tried the suggestions noted and they worked for a long time but low libido is like a tide coming in. you can build a seawall but eventually the tide just washes over.
feel for ya dude. Kinda like beating your head against a wall....
I've never been in a complete sexless relationship. But my wife has. She was married 3 years and had sex less than 10 times. It drove her crazy. She begged for it constantly. And was always turned away. He was a real prick about it. Always living porn in the DVD player or magazines left out for her to find so she'd know he had been jerking off.
She got fed up and left him for that and other things.
I guess sometimes you can fix it and sometimes you have to throw in the towel.
I've been in a sexless marriage for way too long. Unfortunately I don't see it changing anytime soon. Divorce is definitely an option.
Yeah I was in a sexless marriage at one point I think with the pressures of life and kids in the house it wenton the back burners and didn't come off them.
I brought it up a few times but not explicitly and it was brushed under the carpet.
I got totally fed up of no sex and decided to write him a letter as explicit as possible and brutal as possible and then took some sexy pictures,
After he had read the letter, I sent some txts with the sexy pics saying how much I was ready,
A lot of it was 'normal life not for sex' fell into a routine.