Sex and Possession

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  1. Silverfox

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    Does sex make you feel like your partner is your "possession"? Do you feel like theirs? Does it matter? Couples in open relationships, what are your thoughts?
     
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    I want him to grab me, hold me in his arms, take me, do what he wants with me. But I don't feel that he owns me. We're partners. We're a team. We belong to each other.

    Oh, and we aren't in an open relationship.
     
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    When we are in the act of sex... Yes. I feel she's my possession , and she wants it that way, maybe even more than I do..,but in our relationship ? Never...when you feel you own someone wouldn't you tend to take them for granted? I appreciate and cherish every minute I have with her...and to take her for granted would be a sure way to lose her.

    Oh, and we're in a semi- open relationship...
     
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    I think it depends on the relationship and sexual experiences.

    I was ex bf's whore in the bedroom, outside the bedroom was different.

    Sometimes the relationship leads the sexual relationship; sometimes other way around, or not at all.
     
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    To a certain extent I think sex equals possession. Those in an open relationship would certainly come back to their original mate.
     
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    I do believe in two becoming one and that we belong to each other, so to a degree, I would say yes. But in no way would that include unhealthily possessiveness. He likes to think of me as his and his alone, and that's kind of sexy.
     
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    In the "bedroom", she is very much my possession and quite often objectified. Outside we are definately partners.

    Now, this stance is very much a mutual agreement based in mutual desires.

    We are not in an open relationship
     
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