Hi! First I'll start by saying this is my first post (sorry I didn't make a introduction post ). My name is Kat, or Kitty. Doesn't matter. But what brought me here was that I'm searching for advice. Some back story: I've been dating a guy for a while now. We've had sex since day one. He's around the same size as me but his member is rather.... Large. And I'm very petite. We've always had issues during sex. I'm inexperienced and he's well... He's the opposite. I'm not a virgin but I've only had 1 other partner. He's never been with someone as inexperienced as me, so as you may see there is complications. For some reason i always get vaginal rips during sex. Which is somehing I've never experienced. Now I understand this is common. So at first it didn't bother me. I just grit my teeth and deal with it since they were never deep. But this caused me to never be able to cum. He knew exactly how to please me but the background pain makes it impossible. After sex he is always in a tremendous amount of pain. His dick gets swollen and the tip gets a ring of inflammation. He's typically sore for a while. Because of these injuries, sex has become very difficult for us. We've tried different positions. I read that female on top doesn't cause rips. But with me being so inexperienced I have a hard time knowing what to do. We've tried different condoms. We've tried no condom. We've tried more foreplay. It's become extremely frustrating. He wants me to go to the doctor, perhaps something is physically wrong. But I just recently joined the military and it really makes me nervous going to a VA hospital about my possibly abnormal vagina. Lol. Has anyone had a similar experience? If so, how did you fix it? Or is there any advice you could give me?