[Ask a Girl] need some help

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    Hello I am 19 years old and I am a virgin.and single. I have always had the ideal that I would not be a whore or just have sex with a random girl....but lately I've been having strong urges to just go and have sex. And have been masturbating a lot to help decrease it..but because of that masturbating gives me little enjoyment.so my question is should I just give in or wait till I find the right girl
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    I was like you and I ended up having sex with a random woman, and it worked for me. Masturbation is not even close to being a substitute for real sex, and eventually we have to deal with the fact that we're sexual beings.

    What worked for me is that I'm a people person, not extrovert, but I get a lot of joy out of meeting and getting to know new and interesting people. This is why I could gain a lot of satisfaction out of casual sex, because after an evening together my partner and I felt like we'd known each other for a long time. Not everyone is like this though.
     
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    Wait until you find the right girl. Sex is special, not a decision to be taken lightly. Once you have it, you will keep wanting it, because the closeness and intimacy that you don't gain from masturbation is a beautiful thing.You are young, and have plenty of time to enjoy your first sexual experience within the context of a mature, loving relationship. I don't care what others say about casual sex; it leaves a void that is unfulfilling except for the fact that there was one, maybe two orgasms. Use your hands and wait.
     
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    I will and that's how I feel from what I am told...thank you for your help its just hard to control those urges sometimes
     
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    I know how hard it is.....I have been where you are, and where I am now; in my forties. Let it be special
     
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    I wiill thanks
     
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