So a girl i recently started seeing basically is VERY open sexually but there are some issues/limitations we are coming across. There are a couple of things so i will just number them and explain. 1. Well i love anal and what is really nice is that she really wants to do it. BUT the issue is that it always seems painful for her she is willing to try as i said but im not sure how to go about it. I know you have to work your way up but it seems that even fingers sometimes hurt, she put it in the way of she thinks maybe she just tenses up and has to allow herself to just relax and that sounds about right but i guess im just at a loss with it. And if we both want to do it then how do you suggest going about it?..Obviously lube but what kind would be good...like i dont want it to burn or anything i mean. 2. She has a VERY hard time dealing with my size..i cant really go all the way in i do occasionally but of course going very slow while doing it. But basically my question is will this be something she can get used to? Or how does that work..i mean even just missionary hurts her..but she is REALLY into other postions such as doggy but obviously these can't really happen if its going to be painful. I admit that i might sound stupid here but i have never came across either of these exactly i mean not in the same situations....i mean she says "i guess ill just have to suck it up because i want you to be happy and enjoy it" Honestly this is a great thing to hear in some ways but its not right and i dont agree with it. And basically im telling her thats not how it works and she should not have to be in pain...i mean i understand that there might be a little pain involved at first with things such as anal...but it shouldnt be anything that should bring her to tears...and tell her that if its going to be that painful to her than idc what i want because its just not going to happen that way. Sorry i didnt explain things very well...if you need details just say so.