yes i know its a bit overkill but anyway here goes: Generally give a full body massage (when we arent in a hurry) and go down on her and other foreplay and move onto sex. I know the massaging stuff is scoring me points but i want totry and switch things up. any tips? It is very important for me that she gets everything she wants. i still have pelvic pain and try to keep it to 2 to 3 times a day max and while that may sound like a lot we used to go 3-5 times in one day sometimes. if i do more it will lengthen my recovery time.