Separate names with a comma.
Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by jess09, Nov 29, 2006.
Is there a way to loose up my vagina without it hurting ? I'd like to be less tight.
Have sex ....
Go figure, right?
I do have sex...
A1 is right! Sex and sex toys are pretty much the best way to loosen up. I know I loosened up with using tampons...at a young age. I never liked pads.
And do you think it would be weird to ask my boyfriend to loosen me up with sex toys ? I'd prefer him to do that than myself. But how big does it have to be, not too big I hope ?
Or I guess with sex, it will do just that and well it's gonna allow him to have pleasure at the same time. lol
You should work your way up to it. Start with something is a little bigger then you would be perfectly comfy with and work your way up.
Well maybe my boyfriend would work since he seems too big for me !
Relax and take it easy... look at it as a fun workout.
I think you are entirely too concerned and nervous about the whole ordeal, Jess. Just let things happen on their own; try not to worry about it. If you worry too much, it could turn into a strictly psychological issue. Just relax and enjoy the ride, literally!
I agree with you 100% I doubt you are really that tight, unless you are just stressed out and naturally tightening up. I have been with someone that did daily exercises to "tighten up", and man was she tight...but it didn't hurt either of us. Make sure you have enough lubrication, either naturally or with applying product.
Id like to loosen up before i go see my bf since he is on the bigger side and not having sex for weeks at a time can result in pain when we are allowed to be together. To bad he'll think i was with someone else before hand though.
...sounds like a trusting individual.....
So I guess I won't hurt him even though I'm tight. But is it wrong that his penis doesn't slip easily in my vagina ? That he has to force it in at least a little and tell me to relax ?
I think being "too tight" is a psychological issue already. It's about trusting your partner, believing that you are doing the right thing, and being turned on enough to enjoy penetration. Honestly, I don't believe that anyone is naturally just too tight to have sex. The muscles we are talking about were meant to stretch, we do have the babies afterall. They stretch from the get-go. Should your partner be caring enough to provide foreplay that leads to you being relaxed and ready? Sure he should. You should also be comfortable enough with the idea of sex in general, and sex with him specifically, that it doesn't HAVE TO BE a huge ordeal about convincing you and reminding you to relax constantly. If you are that scared and nervous, perhaps you simply aren't ready for all of this yet. It sounds like your body is normal. Your level of apprehension is an issue.
Why don't you just try a carrot or zuccini and work your way up to a cucumber? You could fit the biggest you can in there, and then just walk around for a day with it in. Use lots of lube though.
I can never be too tight for us! :brow
Well, I am really tight bobster, you don't know what you're saying.... and my boyfriend likes it but it does feel weird for me, he seems too big for me really..
Work up through fingering. Start with one finger, then two, then three and then see about sex toys or see how more confortable it is when you have sex. The nice thing is if you feel uncomfortable about masterbation your boyfriend can do these things to you.
You most likely don't have this condition, but just in case, you might want to search the word "vaginismus" in wikipedia.