Long distance relationship

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  1. feelgood2000

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    My GF and I are miles and miles and miles apart. She's not hot but I love her only thing is the distance. She lives in another country(yes I know she's real) but only thing is the distance. We've been together over a year now but I can't help but to think this relationship isn't going to work only because of the distance. (Maybe I'm not giving enough info on this) any advice?
     
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    What does being hot or not have to do with it???
     
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    I'm sure she'd feel good knowing you love her even though she's not hot.
     
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    Have you discussed the long term future?
    Is one of you willing to move?
    Have you met her?
     
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    I really don't know what to say. If you don't think she's hot now and you've never met (or it doesn't sound like you have) I can't help but wonder how you would feel when you do meet or five years down the road. Everyone puts their best foot forward at first. Most people think their s/o is hot or attractive. If you don't, I think you are perhaps enfatuated with something short of reality.
     
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    Sorry I wasn't clear and/or thought I put things in, I think she's beautiful but maybe others won't. We have discussed our future but I don't want to commit to moving since she at least wants to stay in her country for a few more years at least and my feelings might change later. Thanks for the replies
     
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    And of course I probably left some things out, ask me if you need clarification or more info on something.
     
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    Distance is hard for an established relationship .. Seems unwise to START a relationship that way, but there must be an amazing attraction drawing you two together... Only you can know the answer to your question tho..
     
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    Do you mean til she is at least 13?
     
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    And just what is wrong with a bar whore?
     
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    You can't really know what kind of future you will have if you do not spend any time together.

    I am in a long distance relationship but I see him every weekend and on holidays. So even though we are apart most of the time we know how we feel about each other because we have a lot of time together. I can't imagine making any kind of plans for our future if our interaction was very limited or based on only internet communication. Even now I think "Would we be as happy if we were together all the time" and I think the answer is yes mostly but it is a difficult question.

    If you are going to wait for years on someone then you must be absolutely sure they are the right person and the relationships is equal between both of you. You will not get those years back if they are wasted.
     
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    Great response..
     
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    It very difficult investing time into a relationship that isn't going anywhere. I have been there myself.
     
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    In your other reply you say others may not find her good looking. Who cares, it's about you.
    The other reality is to see where you both want your own futures to go, is there a possibility your combined futures match or can you wait for it? Before jumping ..... I say this from experience, how do you both fit together. I ignored a few things with my ex in the name of love and while I have 2 kids I love, I would have loved to have them with the right woman, and I might have had more kids.
    Love is not enough these days, although it used to be, or you stayed together no matter what. I have seen the ugliness of that with myself and other people and this is something you want to make sure you don't want to get into!
     
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    ^^^ Very wise words! ^^^
     
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    I tried long distance once and it didn't work out. He cheated on me multiple times. There was no trust.
    Hope things work out for you and your SO
     
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    I dont understand you unthoughtful comments that have nothing to do with this thread..o_O
     
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    I've had a long distance relationship for quite some time, in the end it didn't work out. America is REALLY hard on getting a visa and so is Europe. I know a few people that had a long relationship and now live together so it can work, but it's hard.
     
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    Some posts just seem so immature or out there, that I can not take them seriously. I just post whatever pops in my little brain.

    Sorry if you were offended.
     
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