Hi, I'm a guy and I don't fall neatly into sterotypes. I guess we all are curious about what is normal and how we fit into the scheme of things. I often hear about what is typical for men and women and the differences between the two. When I hear the typical sterotypes of men, and the jokes made about them sexually, they don't seem to fit. I was taking a seminar recently and the topic somehow turned to men not enjoying kissing. This just added to the pile of male intimacy averse sterotypes such as men not liking to cuddle after sex, and rushing foreplay to get to climax. I've only once seen another couple having sex once and was also having it with my gf at the time, so didn't really pay much attention. The majority of what I've seen is from porn and have to say I have never seen intimate, sensual sex with lots of kissing and foreplay in hetero porn. On the contrary, Lesbian porn is full of initmacy, kissing and foreplay. The conversations in these films seem to focus on the sterotypes of men and how sex with a girl is much better because men are too rough, girls kiss better, etc. My first gf and my first kiss or make out session lasted about 4 hours. We lost track of time and it seemed like only 15 mins. Since them and until today, kissing and foreplay put me into this kind of erotic euphoric trance and although the climax is wonderful, it also means the end of the trance as your hormones leave the body through climax. I try to stay in this trance as long as possible. Standard sex for me has always included lots of kissing foreplay and afterwards, kissing and foreplay until both are ready for round two. I almost have always slept holding or spooning my gf or wife in the past (when we were getting along). I wouldn't mind yielding to the fact that I'm more like a girl in bed, but I'm actually pretty butch. I'm not a typical beer drinking, sport watching guy. I have been a musician most of my life. I grew up with two older very cool sisters that may have kept me from being extremely guy-ish, but as far as sex goes, the femine sterotype of sex just seems more pleasureable. The longer the foreplay, the more explosive the orgasm is. This trance state I'm talking about is better than any drug I've ever taken. Men spend gobs of money getting turned on by watching women getting turned on or pleasuring themselves, so I don't understand why they would want to rush giving foreplay as well. The female body feels wonderful and I can't understand why someone wouldn't want to savor touching what they find so attractive. Another example would be food. Sex with minimal foreplay is like skipping the starters and main dish and going straight for the dessert. Sometimes thats nice, but the full meal is most often the most enjoyable. I know that not all fall under sterotypes, but they exist based on peoples experience. I guess I just want to hear others experience in these areas. Men and women, sterotype following or deviating, all are welcome and if these sterotypes are not true, why do you think they are so prevelant? Thanks, Looking forward to talking more with all of you.