Hi, I am a 19 year old virgin. I've had a girlfriend of three years now and she's pulled me out of that alot. Recently, though, she wanted to get physically active. She's a virgin as well and was curious of the feeling that she would get. She asked me to reach down her pants and I did. I read on the web and in books before that you had to stimulate them to lubricate and avoid injury / pain. Well, I did everything that I've read and heard about. When I reached down there she was plenty lubricated and yet when I started she complained of pain. I stopped immediately because I didn't want to hurt her. I've read that virgins feel pain at first but I don't know if a finger would hurt it. Should it? Is that natural? I'm starting to feel that sex is only meant to hurt others again.