Sorry to throw in a mini rant and rave, but I really needed to let this out before I explode. I'm hoping that members on here can help me with some suggestions or some advice. I just don't understand why it's so damn hard for me to find a "date". I know that with my job, it takes a lot of my free time but I'm still out in the public eye. Yet...can't find any decent men? Granted, I get hit on quite a bit but it's not the quanity that matters, it's the quality. When I finally met a guy that has potential, he's either a complete player or he's just looking for a quick fix in the sack. I guess I'm just at a stage in my life that I want to settle down. I've never been a good dater and have always been a long term relationship kind of person (one relationship was 5 yrs & another was 4 yrs). Apparently, I'm doing some thing wrong or men just don't like what I have to off. My only thought is it comes down to my personality. I'm a very strong willed person, have a great career and can be out spoken at times. I've been told in the past that those are great qualities to have, but yet when men find out that...they bolt. Some men (not all men, but apparently the ones around this area!) don't like an outspoken woman or one who may possibly be the "bread winner" of the household. I've also been told that I come across snobbish and intimidating by first impressions by some people. I don't know where they get that since I'm people person by heart and I'm one that always speaks to people first. Maybe I "think" I'm one kind of person while on the other hand I'm not what I "think". I just dunno and don't understand it! Can someone tell me what the hell I'm doing wrong? Please feel free to be brutally honest with me. Thanks for listening to me ramble on. I appreciate it!