My husband and I are finally out of a REALLY long sexual dry spell so I shouldn't complain, but things still aren't quite as hot as I'd like them and I'm never really sure if I'm just being too demanding or unrealistic. The other night he asked me if I want to have sex. That is really quite amazing, just in and of itself, and of course I was delighted and jumped up ready to go. But then he said, "Ok, hurry up then because I have some things I need to get done before bed." Hmmm. That's so sexy. I immediately lost any desire and said let's forget it. He was completely happy to do so. Guess he wasn't horny after all... My question is, is that a normal way to invite someone to have sex with you? Surely, if you are all turned on and excited, wouldn't you have your hands all over him or her and try and pull him or her into having sex with you? You don't just say, "Let's have sex!" Or do you? It just doesn't turn me on. I want to see that he is really horny and really wants it. That does turn me on.