My partner has not been very open to new things Sexually in the past or now. I have had a much wider variety and have been more open...In the past. She is someone who is self conscious and and defensive when anything has been brought up and very little of the time does she actually have a discussion about anything new. All talk fizzles out pretty fast. I know we have to talk about it and I know she will never get into some things even if we do talk about it. I seem to not get any sway and I am not talking about anything really wild. It's pretty much the same moves every time. Only once in a while will she let me go down on her, she is very particular on how or where I touch her. It's pretty much her on top or me on the bottom. Even " doggie" style doesn't go well because it's uncomfortable for her. I've tried to give her suggestions during or before sex and they are met with defense and takes it personally. I try and make her realize that " I like the ice cream but I would like sprinkles once in a while " type of thing. I have tried my best to get her to tell me what she wants or would like to try or what feels good and pretty much get nothing. So , how do you talk to some one like that? What do you say and what do you say to her response? I am with her and will be , I realize she may never get to where I am and I am okay with that but I feel she just is not telling me things because she is uncomfortable , self conscious , and thinks these questions are a negative thing. I just want her to open up more. Those of you that know what I post must realize I don't expect her to do those things and I am okay with them remaining fantasies.