Grower vs. show-er

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  1. lostinatx41

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    I, myself, am a grower. In my walk around life I'm nothing impressive. When I get hard I'm doing all right. I love the look of a thick, soft cock and I'm a little jealous of guys who are always big. Thoughts? Guys and girls, what do you like. Guys specifically, what would you prefer? Am I overthinking this? Just a random thought...
     
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    Yeah, much like most men you're overthinking it. Take it from a guy that's both a grower and a shower, whatever it says on a ruler is usually insufficient to measure up in our mind's eye.
     
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    I mean I know what I have. But if I was a bit bigger, maybe I'd be more willing to go to a nude beach or something. I know it's not about judgement, but I'm a bit self conscious. So...to get over it a bit, here's me.
     

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    You're definitely over thinking. I'm a grower not a shower. Fully erect I'm nothing to brag about and if it's cold out I'm Damn near inverted. Lol. But, I've reached the age where I really don't give a shit. Like men, different women are satisfied in different ways. You may not be able to satisfy the ones that want a man that's hung like a horse, but there are others out there that want something different. Find out what she wants and provide it to satisfy her. Don't be afraid to employ dildos or toys if she needs something you aren't equipped with.
    Bottom line, you've got what you've got and that's not going to change. It makes you no less of a man and don't let anyone make you feel otherwise. The real challenge is satisfying women with who you are, not just what you were born with. Just sayin.
     
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    I'm a grower. Never cared about the size though. It does the job and I've never had any complaints.
     
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    I'm a grower
    I live in a cold Climate area
    Ever try to get a half inch dick out of three inches of clothing to pee?:p
     
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    Well said. I've always been a little self conscious about my grower. But I've talked about it with my woman, and in the course of discussion, concluded that perhaps feeling slightly less than adequate has caused me to sharpen my skills, pay more attention to what my lover wants and needs besides a big ole' cock. I like to joke that I've never had any complaints, but that's because I've always dated polite women!
     
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    A person doesn't need to love everything about you to love you.

    Same goes for sex. I don't need to love everything about a man to love having sex with him.
     
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    I've never really cared either way. When a guy isn't hard, why do i care how big it is? Even if he isn't big once he is hard, as long as he can fuck well, it doesn't matter. Fortunately, that's not something I have to worry about anyway. My husband has a good size and is a great fuck, so WIN-WIN. lol
     
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    Bigger than me man!
     

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    I actually like being a grower especially if a woman sees me all small when soft and then she sees the change instead of just a rise.
    Going to the gym, I have seen 2 or 3 guys who must be showers. They are bigger soft than my full erection.
    I admire the size and think this makes a nice erection, but accepting and enjoying what I have.
     
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    I've always had a thing for "growers" especially when it comes to oral sex. I love taking a guy in my mouth while he is soft and small then feeling him grow as I do what I love doing ....:):rolleyes:
     
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    Used to be a shower when I was young, but now as I get older I'm a grower.
     
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    Grower here and happy the way; Would hate to have all that meat hanging, packed and sweating.
    I do live in hot to very hot climate tho'.
     
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    Think wife would enjoy if I was a shower vs a grower. For a woman that is shy about how much she shows she sure likes having me in tight jeans so my cock shows.
    Right before we go in places she likes to get me hard in the car and then say ok let's go as we walk into a restaurant or store.
    She especially likes doing that when I take her clothes shopping. She goes into the dressing room and I pick out clothes for her to try on giving me peeks of her bare tits each time to keep me hard and inevitably a store employee will walk up and say to me I don't think that is your size.
    My wife also likes to have me try on things and she walks right into the men's changing room. The last time another woman was in there outside of my door the wife open the door and I was standing there in all my glory for the other woman to see. I normally go commando.
    She looked smiled and said excuse me and kept walking.
    My wife can be a ton of fun when she can let go and relax.
     
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    A grower myself, however Rodzilla :yum is well on his way to Hardysville way before the briefs come down if he anticipates a workout encounter so very few have seen the deflated side to after the fact.:grinning:
     
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    definitely a grower, however i'll walk around naked and he seems to like it and stays about 1/2 mast particularly if we're out around others like a nude beach or a naked party.
     
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    This is what my wife says. I'd still rather be a shower, though!
     
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    Grower is something you do after making him cum, then suck him hard again :kissing_heart:
     
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