[Ask a Guy] Fantasy - first or third?

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Do your sex fantasies happen in the first person or in the third person?

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  2. Third person

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  3. I don't have sex fantasies

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  1. jmo

    jmo New Member

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    Almost all of my sex fantasies occur in the third person. In other words, I am not fantasizing about me and some woman, but rather about some woman and some man (almost always generic people, too -- not a friend or a celebrity). Is this common? When you guys have sex fantasies, are they in the first person or in the third person?
     
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    Third person deff. I like to think of sexy women not me ha
     
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    First person almost always but usually as observer rather than partaker in whatever the action..........if that makes any sense.
     
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    first person, my fantasies are my fantasies so always involve me, with someone else
     
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    Mine are always in the first person.
     
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    I voted first person but hmmm, writing about secretly watching another couple is a great idea!!
     
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    I chose third person because my fantasies are usually of my loved one and some beautiful woman. That said.. I do also have first person fantasies of myself joining in with the pair.. myself and my BF making love.. or getting freaky between the sheets imagining that someone else is watching..

    I am weird sometimes I narrate my fantasies I visualize myself and my BF but pretend I am someone else watching.. if that makes sense.. Great now I am confusing myself
     
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    its a bit of both. sometimes i see people having sex, sometimes i'm having sex. usually the first person ones are when i day dream of a girl. third person are usually people i don't know or i'm just not interested in finding out who they are, lol.
     
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    I usually fantasize about being with an attractive woman, but sometimes "I" (myself) am not me (i.e. I sometimes fantasize about being someone else with a beautiful woman). When I am trying to sleep, such daydreams can take the form of whole stories with multiple characters, although the sexual parts rarely include more than two people (my "character" and a woman). Maybe I should write a novel :lol
     
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    So that's really first person then right?

    ;)

    Would you mind adding this comment to the "Ask A Girl" version of this question?
     
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    Thats not weird;) and it does makes sense:)

    I'm more of a first person dreamer i guess hehe
     
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    Like Trond, my fantasies are in the 1st person but she often isn't actually me. I see the action through her eyes and I feel everything she is feeling, but she could be any one of quite a few characters; I choose who I want to be depending on the scene I play in my mind.

    I don't know what she looks like because I'm looking out through her eyes and I can't see her face, but she's always single with no children. My fantasies always involve non-consent and it ruins it for me if the heroine is married with kids!
     
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    Almost always first person. Occasionally I'll think about other people, either solo or as a couple, but it's always people I know personally. I guess for me, sex is too personal of a thing to be generic or far removed from my center...
     
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