Erection problems

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by uglessness, Dec 31, 2005.

Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.
  1. uglessness

    uglessness New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 31, 2005
    Messages:
    3
    Likes Received:
    0
    Hey all. I'm 19 and recently started having sex (crowd cheers). I just have a couple of questions...Can having sex make it harder to get an erection while masturbating? Ever since having sex for the first couple of times, I can't get an erection unless I'm stroking my dick pretty hard and contracting those PC muscles. I used to get rock-hard by just watching porn, and now it's tough. Is that normal? Also, it seems hard to keep an erection before I actually am inside the girl. Is this a psychological thing? Thanks for the advice :)
     
  2. uglessness

    uglessness New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 31, 2005
    Messages:
    3
    Likes Received:
    0
    Update:

    I noticed that I woke up the other morning with a hard erection: the rock-hard kind I would like to be getting. However, I'm still not turned on by watching porn.
     
  3. pussycat69

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 2, 2006
    Messages:
    2,964
    Likes Received:
    1
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Northeast
    Ugless,
    I'm not a guy,but still,in my experience,it's all a matter of getting used to(getting hard for sex rather than masturbation).Although all guys are different.However,what I've been told by guys is when you do masturabate a lot(or have become accustomed to it) it is hard or harder to get an errection....or to keep one.Just keep practicing:) And porn doesn't always "do it" for everyone,although it can be helpful.Also,of course errections are largely psychological...as well as orgasms.Have fun practicing...and congats!
     
  4. uglessness

    uglessness New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 31, 2005
    Messages:
    3
    Likes Received:
    0
    Yeah. I think you were definitely right about the psychological part. I think I've just been getting myself down (pun sort-of intended) about my less than par first experience. I seem to be fine now...all in the head. And oh, by the way, since I was talking about my less-than-par first experience with sex, maybe I'll offer my new found magic tip to those who don't know:

    Want to last longer? Do 2 things. 1) Masturbate (preferably with a realistic toy) and learn to recognize when you're about 10-15 seconds away from ejaculation. Just stop all movement when you feel it coming on. When you can learn to recognize the signs of an impending orgasm: 2) Play around with the different muscles in your pelvic area. Do NOT squeeze the PC. It only leads to premature ejaculation which explains why guy-on-top positions are hard since you are contracting most of the muscles in your legs and stuff. When I feel like I'm going to cum, I pretend I'm trying to pee. This relaxes another muscle in your pelvic area. When the feeling passes, resume normal stimulation :brow This can go on indefinitely (or until your patience/viagra runs out).

    So, don't go wasting too much money on tips. There is the secret. Am I going to get mobbed by some secret guy association now?
     
  5. pussycat69

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 2, 2006
    Messages:
    2,964
    Likes Received:
    1
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Northeast
    Good for you!;)
     
Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.
  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
    Dismiss Notice