Please bear with me if this sounds a bit long winded. My husband and I have been married for a little over a year. We were childhood sweethearts with "benefits" but then I moved away and the relationship lapsed. After a few years, we met up again and we resumed what where we left off and eventually got married. When we first got married, we made love constantly and at all hours. For newlyweds, i would expect that but then it started tapering down. Way down. We went from having sex every day to every other day to every 3rd day to once every week and now we are at once a month (twice if i'm lucky). I very much love my husband and know that sex isn't everything and I also know that I have a very high libido so do make certain concessions for him. I even accept the fact that he doesn't like to be as affectionate as I can be. So I restrict myself from cuddling or hugging or kissing or a lot of foreplay for him. I can deal with this even though I don't get out much. (I work from home and so my human contact is restricted to well...just him.) So anyway, he has kids from a previous relationship and again i'm ok with that. But this means he also has an ex who I not ok with. Now, before it sounds like i'm being overly jealous, hear me out.This is a woman who even though she knows we're married, decided to one day have him pick up the kids from her house and shows him her nightie...Her see thru nightie...(He told her not to do this). And up until recently, she would send him text to his cell describing sexual acts that she wanted to do to him (he put a stop to this after i found out...he hadn't before becuase he said it was only talk and it kept her from ranting and raving..which i know sounds weird but is true. Believe me she's a real nutcase). Ok, so there's that, now before we met up again, he had this other girl who he swears up and down that he never touched. She now has a kid and she says the kid is his (i've never seen the kid so don't know if this is true). But I found an old e-mail from him to her saying that he remembers how they used to "fuck good" and she used to "suck his dick good". I asked him about her but he continues to deny that anything happened and says that it was a ruse to have her prove the kid is his. Ok... I know he loves me and he likes to protect me from a lot of things But is it just me or does all of this sound odd to anyone else besides me? Am i just being overly possesive?