Hi all and thank you for taking the time to read this. To begin with I have been debating if I should post this question because I feel I know what the answers most likely will be but I am looking more for some insight from people who have been in similar situations than an opinion of my situation. At least from my perspective I am not looking for replies about the risks of cuckolds or threesomes. Instead I am looking for some insight. Before getting to the question I feel it is necessary to give some background information. My wife and I have been married about 20 years. During this time we have had a few mfm threesomes and done an occasional cuckolds during our marriage. Most of the experiences happened during one part of marriage the part where after a few years after doing all of the wild places you could have sex and all of the positions you can try there is very little else you can do. Well, at that point we had a few experiences, both threesomes and cuckold, but then we moved away from it. Overall I feel we have good communication and can talk about anything. We do not have "taboo" subjects and we are open enough with each other that we can, I feel, talk about anything. Personally, I would say we are close and see other as our soul mates. After they ended we went on with our lives but the subject began to come again. We would go through a cycle on the subject where she started acting though she was considering the idea, then it started to seem as though she would be willing to have the experience before completely rejecting the idea. So for the last couple of years I have come to realize that those experience comprised one part of our relationship, which I have been gladly to accept that may never happen again. About a year ago things seemed to change a bit. Before it would be me who would be the only one talking about threesomes. Now, she has started making "off the wall comments" to me, in a teasing sort of way by saying "Why are you rushing me out the door so that your girlfriend can come over?" then she would follow up by saying, "the idea would turn me on immensely but I would be pissed." Also she sometimes will stay up late at night, especially the weekends, and sometimes I will say so why were you up so late, the reply I sometimes get is, "I was out late with my boyfriend." to which I would reply, "I bet that was quite enjoyable and I would definitely would like to see that happen." Usually, in the past, if I made that comment I would get a comment like, "it will never happen" or "enjoy the fantasy because it is not happening." Thirdly she now will point out guys, most celebrities she finds hot and would not mind "doing". These comments are very random and very unpredictable. Final point regarding this development, the one thing in the last year has been missing from her is the fact she not going through the extremes with the subject, from acting as though she is considering it before pulling back from it. It seems as though she has more of an "even keel" on the subject and she is now bringing up the subject. Whereas, I am holding back by not making threesome or cuckold related comments. Where I feel we are at is that we are "playing" around with the idea, as a one-time experience? The few brief conversations we have had seems to be split on the idea of cuckold or threesome. From the past she was more at ease with the cuckolds but wants me there for security in so she tends to prefer the mfm. Our communication tends to be short discussions over a long period versus a few lengthy discussions. My question what is happening here? Is she opening up to the idea of threesome or cuckold again? If so, what do you feel would work best, threesome or cuckold? Also, how do I support her with it? Alternatively, if you feel she is not opening up to the idea, then why is she randomly bringing threesome / cuckold related stuff up? What does that mean? Simply stated I am trying to understand my wife's recent behavior as it relates to this subject and understand if her attitude is changing?