Not necessarily submit (as in dominant - submissive). But with former gf's it was me always doing the work. Once in a very long while, the woman would take charge - but those times were far and few between. I would very much like being on the receiving work, with the other person doing the work, whether man or woman. Of course what would be best is that we both do the work during sex, not, "it's your turn to take charge / it's my turn to take charge." Just two people having sex together.