Hi, I hope it's ok to share my issue with you guys here. Well, it concerns my boyfriend... And things that never bothered me before are all of a sudden plaguing my mind and I am wondering if I am going through some phase or I have too much time on my hands or if my worries are warranted... I was having lunch the other day with some upperclassmen (all gals) and we were just shooting the breeze talking about this and that and naturally the subject of my bf got brought up and I just conversed about his coming to visit me during spring break etc... Well they asked questions I answered, but by the end of the conversation I felt really kinda icky cuz I don't think they meant to be deliberate, but some of the stuff they told me made me all paranoid about my bf. I know I trust him and all, but I just got these uneasy thoughts and then I got annoyed with myself... Well, first off, they told me I was being *way too* trusting about his kinda large number of female friends...that him taking one of his gal pals home after a group dinner with his friends shouldn't have been done, for example. I didn't think there was anything wrong with it but they sure did.. This got me all in a tizzy cuz during the spring break when I was hanging out with my bf and his two best buddies, both of them sorta jokingly said to me, "hey what ya gonna do about all those girls in his life huh? We gotta do something about Mr. Way Too Friendly Jimbo over here,huh?" They were joking and at the time I laughed it off but now it's staying with me for some reason urgh! He has a lot of female friends, and he is in touch with many of them, I knew that from before, but as we get more seriously involved, hearing comments about the same thing wherever I go, that he has a little too many gals in his life, both from my pals and his own friends, I just can't help but get well, icky ( why can't I think of a better word?) And I know I shouldn't let it bother me, but I know I am letting it bother me because it's ultimately the underlying trust ( or slight lack of it) that I still sorta harbor inside me that's the problem isn't it?? If I trusted him 100% I wouldn't be worrying now would I? And because I don't have male friends the way he has his female friends, I guess I am just having a little trouble being in his shoes too...sigh. Yet he's SO good about calling me, keeping in touch with me, seeing me when he can, writing me and talking to me and telling me he loves me even though we are far apart, so I feel like I am being a paranoid narrow minded dumba&$... I know you are supposed to go with what YOU feel not by what everyone comments about, but even a really non jealous person like me can't help but wonder if I am missing clues since so many people (including his own male buddies, and guys are less cattier than gals, bring up that fact, albeit jokingly...) bring this same subject up so I feel there may be something to it.... like his buddies would be like "doesn't it annoy you that he has all these girls around him?" (these are guys who say this, and they say it lightly...but still...I wonder if my bf is being too friendly...) Anyway this was more of a vent I suppose. Just feeling kinda down..and I could use some help... And it's so iffy for me to bring this up with him cuz if it turns out to be nothing and I am making a mountain out of a molehill, I'll end up seeming like some overly jealous girlfriend and annoy the heck out of him too probably!! Should I just bring it up with him, and if so, how?? thanks for reading this!!