Hi Everybody. I know this is going to sound shallow, but oh well, I'm going to put myself out there... I started dating this great guy -- handsome, funny, thoughtful, generous, stable in all the right ways (mentally, emotionally, financially), and makes my heart melt when he kisses me. Then came the sex. Pardon my bluntness, but it's got to be said -- average sized penis that never gets fully stiff (like a half erection), so it falls out constantly during the act, very little stamina, stopping every 30 seconds and making me ride on top (and the kind of riding where I'm doing *all* the work), prefers missionary position which in his case consists of chest-to-chest, very slow and deep penetration punctuated by frenetic, shallow jackhammering, isn't into rough or dirty sex, and gave me no surprises. I don't know how it was possible for him to not once, in 6 acts of sex over 12 hours, hit me in the right spot, yet hit me in the wrong spot (the, "oh my god, my ovaries!" spot) several times. To top it off, he's the furriest man I've ever laid eyes on and is totally out of shape, so there isn't one part of his actual body that turns me on. Sigh. I really, really like him, and I want to try to work on the sex aspect, but I have no idea how to approach it or how to explain to him that the motion in his ocean is rocky in a bad way. I don't even know what to tell him that he's doing wrong because I can't pinpoint it. He needs to tilt his body differently and/or change his rhythm, but I'm not sure how. And the half erection, well...short of suggesting Viagra, I have no idea. (What sucks is that I recently left a long-term relationship, with a man I loved but can't be with because he has major addiction/personality issues, and my sexual chemistry with him was off the charts! He had a huge one, sexy legs and ass, could go forever, knew all the right positions and did them without me asking, was rough with me without being abashed, and did all sorts of odd and surprising little things that turned me on (finger in the belly button, tongue in the ear, etc.). I'd say that half of that was because we were together for so long, but it was like that with him from day one. I honestly think I stayed with him and put up with his crap all for the mindblowing, every-second-I-feel-like-I'm-in-heaven-while-having-it sex that he gave me.) So, what do you think? Is there a chance with the new guy? Can the sex be improved? What do you think he's doing wrong exactly (motion/depth wise), and how do I tell him? This is my first shot at a stable, healthy relationship with an amazing guy, and I don't want to blow it because I'm a nympho. Many thanks.