I was hoping to figure out most of this myself, but I found myself googling for help without finding many answers or questions similar to my own, so here it goes... I just started dating this great gal (22, I'm 23) about two weeks ago. We wanted to start things slow, but that was thrown out the window when she stayed the night last week. Since then we've had sex about 8 times. I've never enjoyed myself with another girl so much before (both socially and in bed): in the past, I've only lasted about 5-10 minutes and became quickly bored... with her I last 30-40 minutes with intercourse after about half an hour of foreplay. It's fantastic, but I've hit a snag in a few places and was hoping for some input. (1) "Eating out" -- I would really love to go down on her (huge turn on for me), and she says she likes it, but she feels as if she can't 'contribute' while I'm down there... She loves kissing and caressing to the point that if we aren't doing it, she feels as if I'm doing all the work. I would suggest we do a 69, but I don't really like blowjobs (crazy, I know). Aside from maybe running her fingers through my hair or massaging my shoulders (which she does during sex), is there anything else she could be doing to feel like she's contributing while I'm down there? (2) She's a little chubby... It doesn't bother me in the least but she is very self-conscious about it. Consequently the lights are always off, which can make some things a little difficult. Any tips on how to convince her that I appreciate her for who she is as well as her body? I don't need the lights on fully... even the ambient blue light from my clock is something she turns out. She has fantastic, in-shape legs--it's her midsection that she is uneasy about. I've tried caressing her sides during foreplay and sex to reassure her, but I'm worried that's forcing her to think about it rather than simply enjoying it. (3) It's tough to admit, but I've gone limp on her already. Despite being able to go for 30-40 minutes, some positions just don't work for me, but she loves them. For instance, so far her favorite position is with us sitting together on the bed with her swiveling and grinding on me while I massage her clit. I absolutely love that it really gets her off, but the problem is that without any kind of in/out motion, my cock just feels like it's in a warm, wet place--it just isn't physically satisfying at all. Is there a position that would allow similar access to her clit but also allow for the in/out motion that really works for me? Missionary works well enough for that, and she seems to enjoy it enough, but it can be a little more difficult to stimulate her clit and it doesn't give her much room to maneuver. This wouldn't really be an issue except that whenever I 'lose it'... it doesn't come back for some time. That's all I can think to ask for now... thanks a bunch for any input you can provide. Also, hope you all had an amazing Thanksgiving.