So the girlfriend (both 27) and I have talked about adding a third person to our sex life. We discussed a few matters of importance like: Man or Woman Jelousy Health etc Approval She wants an extra girl to join us, (Thank god, I dont think im ready for an extra guy, but would do it for her, her wish is my command). Well to put it simple it was her idea from the start. I was like my dreams have come true. lol To tell you the truth I am very excited about the event. Off to the jelousy factor, she said she might feel a little jelous at first if I was busy with the other woman and I fully accept it. So for that I guess at first it would be me spending more time with my girlfried than the other girl... I would also feel more comfortable that way. Thirdly with STD's floating around like they do we talked about the risks involved, and have decided to take all precautionary measures at first. Last of our discussions was approval, the conditions was simple we both have to approve of the person to join us... in otherword we want both of us to be sexually attracted to the extra Which brings me to the next question couple of questions, we joined this site as we felt there are alot of people that could help us with hints, tips and what not... Firstly we have been looking around but it does not seem there are too many woman in our community that is prapared to share or even remotely interested in the idea. 1: How do you find such a person and where? We have tried one or 2 dating sites but it seems there are only men there that are either sexually frustrated or they just want to fuck my girlfriend and are not interested in a long lasting mutally beneficial kind of relationship. The woman there are desperate and wish to move in with the first person they find. 2: For the guys that do practice in 3 somes, do you have different people all the time or do you have a special person that you both find great in the bed? We would preferably have only 1 person to join us on a regular basis should we both enjoy the experience. Any information will be well appreciated, but our main question is how do we approach people to get them to join us?