This is complicated, would like to hear input from anyone whos in/has been in a similar situation. My fiance and I (im the guy shes the girl) have been talking about a threesome for a long time, sometimes it seems like we're getting closer to being ready, and sometimes it seems like she's trying to back away from the subject. She has a tendancy to change her mind/feelings on things in drastic sways (for example : about a month ago we had a conversation about how i hate feeling like i must stare at the floor when i walk through places where there might be attractive women (even when im alone and she wouldn't even know it) and she says "i dont mind if you look at women, wouldn't even mind if you flirted a little if you enjoy it" even though i was given the "OK" i didnt, and the next time the subject came out she was OBVIOUSLY not "ok" with it.) just seems to be the way she is. I think it's her self-esteam, sometimes its high others its low(even when i try to help). But our current standing (on a good day) is this... We want to have one, and I very much want to be with someone of either sex while she's there HOWEVER..it would have to be a gay guy so he wasn't interested in her at all, and she's not OK with another woman(which is fine since im not ok with her and another man). She seems to agree with wanting to see me with a guy, but will never seem to take steps to actually move along the path to making it happen (she's in college and so she meets FAR more sexually open/gay people than i do, theres noone i run into that even seems remotely approachable). Furthermore, I would love to see her with a woman, of course i wouldn't interact with the other woman, id enjoy just helping them pleasure her. This idea is KO'd by the fact that my fiance isn't interested in pleasureing a woman, and would definatly not be OK if I did so...and how are we gonna find a woman who wants to join us just to help get her off and be left unsatisfied? Bah, such a distressing situation, I want to be extremly open and experience every type of non-beastial/masichistic sex. And I want to experience them with her. But, she DEFINATLY has territorial issues with me and anyone else, and so do i. Her with a woman, thats WAAAY OK, but a man? I don't think I could handle it, at all, just the thought of it makes me want to kill people. So I guess were kinda just doomed huh? Unless some good lookin gay guy just happens to show up on my doorstep, or she decide she wants to give a girl some lovin.