What is love, a chinese perspective

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There is much discision on SF as to what is love, so I thought I would put in a short/ brief discription of how it is viewd in my culture.

I hope you find it of some interest.

What is love ? A question that has been asked throughout time

In being asked this question here is what confuscious thought.

Tzu-chang asked Confucius, What is love?
"Love," said Confucius, "is to mete out five things to all below heaven."
"May I ask what they are?"
"Modesty and bounty," said Confucius, "truth, earnestness, and kindness. Modesty escapes insult; bounty wins the many; truth gains men's trust; earnestness brings success' kindness is the key to man's work."

"Life leads the thoughtful man on a path of many windings.
Now the course is checked, now it runs straight again.
Here winged thoughts may pour freely forth in words,
There the heavy burden of knowledge must be shut away in silence.
But when two people are at one in their inmost hearts,
They shatter even the strength of iron or of bronze.
And when two people understand each other in their inmost hearts,
Their words are sweet and strong, like the fragrance of orchids."

"Things that accord in tone vibrate together. Things that have affinity in their inmost natures seek one another. Water flows to what is wet, fire turns to what is dry ... What is born of heaven feels related to what is above. What is born of earth feels related to what is below. Each follows its kind."

Confucius. I Ching, Great Commentary

Let's define the desire for love.
You want someone in your life that fulfills the emotional compulsion we call love. You want love.
That is natural. You see it throughout our species. It is a simple truth.
We must start at that simple truth to understand the not so simple parts of it.

First, how do you get Love?

Second, what makes Love satisfying or dissatisfying?

Third, why can Love be painful and difficult?

Fourth, why does it seem that so many religions are against Love? Why does it seem that religions recommend avoiding a love relationship with a partner in order to grow spiritually?

Starting With Simple Answers to These Love Questions
Much of the confusion surrounding love comes from having your desire for love jumbled up. There are actually three major forms of love that you need.
  • Parental Love
  • Love of Partner
  • Universal Love
Parental love provides a feeling of support and nourishment from others and will shape your perspective on love. If you are struggling to overcome a poor parenting relationship, you will need to learn love from scratch. It is unfortunate, but you will be able to compensate for the loss.
Love of a Partner refers to romantic love--the emotional sense of being in love with someone else.
Universal Love refers to the love that flows through the Tao and connects all things. It is often times called spiritual love or brotherly love.
To be happy and satisified in love, you need to start by understanding these three loves. From that understanding, you can move toward relationships that satisfy your needs.

When it comes to love, often times there is a great deal of self-sabotage going on.

One source of this sabotage is not realizing how much you are affected by your need for Universal Love.

Let's start off with a basic premise first...

Yes, the Universe Loves You

The Tao can be broken down into basic building blocks from which reality is created. One of these building blocks is love. For this reason, all things are loved regardless of behavior, and regardless of whether that thing is destructive or creative.

You, as part of the universe, are never without love—you are partly built from Love.
I admit, when you’re without the affection of a
loved one, knowing about universal love can be pretty shallow comfort. I'm not here to convince you that it's any other way.

“Who cares if I am loved by all things?” Well, let’s take a look at that. What happens when you are not in a love relationship or one has ended?

1. You feel lonely, separated from others.

2. You feel as if no one cares about you.

3. You feel like you’ve been abandoned.

4. You feel like someone did something wrong.

5. You feel like you’re somehow less valuable.

6. You feel powerless.

Those are powerful impacts from the loss of just one human to human relationship, aren’t they?

What if you could feel the connection of love that flows through the Tao itself? Would you be caught in this type of desperation if you felt that…
  • 1.You are never alone or separated from others.
  • 2.You are always loved by all things, even if that thing is trying to destroy you.
  • 3.You can’t be abandoned.
  • 4.Your rightness or wrongness can’t separate you from love, although it can remove you from the emotional experience of love.

    What Does Any of This Have to Do With Me Sabotaging My Chance at Love?
  • Please take a look at the two lists above. Who do you want to be in a relationship with The person described in the first list or the person described in the second list?
  • If you lack universal love, the desperation that you radiate will sabotage your ability to find mutually fulfilling mates.
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