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  • Silverfox
    "I just flipped out on Facebook. Heres the story:

    So a "friend" posted an Etsy page (People who hand make crafts and sell on Etsy) in which a woman made moulds of vulvas and turned them into pendants. Some of these vulva pendants were pictured, each looking different from the rest, of course. Anyway the friend had lots of comments underneath this picture. Here are a few choice comments, quoted directly:

    "lmao. That's Rank!"

    "Errr...whats with the "He/she" one" (One has a large clitoris)

    "I thought that. No wonder people have surgery if they look like that lmao"

    "That is sick. You would have to be sad to order one"

    What the holy hell? Would it surprise you to know that every single one of these comments were made by WOMEN. (And more than half of them have daughters)

    I normally stay out of this kind of stuff, but this person seems to do this a lot (Shaming women) and after reading those comments and getting angrier and angrier I jumped in and I posted this:

    "While I wouldn't wear one of these. I totally get the point of them. Porno culture and the "perfect pussy" has caused a rise in women feeling ashamed of their vagina and taking drastic action, (Yup like surgery) to chop away at their bits. If they can't afford that, then they simply hide it, never showing partners or enjoying pleasure. Having sex with the lights off, even refusing to receive oral. I have even read of men slating their female partner for looking "wrong" down their because she has big lips. Yet another version of shaming women for not being perfect. I am sure everyone has heard derogatory terms used for lady bits, from "meat flaps" to "Badly wrapped kebabs" and hundreds more. This behaviour has sparked quite a few ladies who are disgusted by the amount of women ashamed of their bodies, to start such projects as the "Pussy pride project" and "Great wall of vagina" to show women that vaginas come in all shapes and sizes and that you should not feel ashamed of what you got. This Etsy project seems to be another form of celebrating that, and putting it out there that women do not have to conform to societies unrealistic beauty standards. I for one celebrate that, if it means more women (Including our daughters) stop chopping their bodies and denying themselves pleasure they rightly deserve. Go vagina necklaces!"

    Absolutely sickened that women feel it is okay to shame and mock other women like this. I am not naive, I know it happens, but wow. How would these women feel if it was their daughters, or even their own vaginas being mocked and ridiculed. I may have lost a few "friends" on facebook, but as far as I am concerned those "friends" were worth losing. This is exactly the kind of shit that some poor woman will read and forever feel abnormal. Grrrrr!"



    Got this off another site. I can't say it any better.
  • Silverfox
    Silverette and I had a spat last night. It was about our daughter. She's about the only thing we fight about.

    When she turned 19 she really made a change in her life. Started taking hard drugs which are affecting her perception of reality. Can't keep a job, constantly fighting with her supervisors. She leaves, then makes up, and goes back. I guess when she applies herself, she's a pretty good worker.

    Then came the stealing. It was at this point that we put her out of the house. She lets her mobile go unpaid so we have no way to reach her until she reactivates. Then she acts like nothing's happened and nothings wrong.

    She's having sex with a new guy almost every week, almost always moving in with them. I've tried to talk to her about safe sex and she tells me to mind my own business.

    She posts every little detail on Facebook. A few months ago, I put her on my ignore list. I just don't want to read about what's she's doing. Sillverette reads it everyday. It's always more of the same thing.

    We haven't had a call from her in over a year. She doesn't want to talk to me anymore because she thinks I'm psychoanalyzing her. I suppose I am. Yesterday, Silverette saw one of her posts and it really set her off. She wanted to me to read it. I let her read it too me. Our daughter wants us to give her $20,000. Not loan, give. We won't give her a dime. Silverette then goes on this tirade until she starts repeating her self, then I say it's enough.

    Needless to say, last night was a quiet evening. However, when we went to bed Silverette rolled into me, cuddled against my chest, and I held her and rubbed her back.