Would you tell?

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  1. looking4

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    if you saw a profile for someone you know on a sex dating site....
    would you let them know? anonymously? would you tell the partner? or just keep on going and hope they don't see you?

    I kept on going....even though I never post a face or "telling" pic!
     
  2. CosmicEye

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    It depends on the person.

    If it was a married couple and one of them (likely the man) was posting nothing but "hey wanna suck n fuck", I think I would have to say something to the partner.

    If it was like most people on here and in a relationship, its all good fun and a great place to learn new things or talk about experiences together. I would like to think the partner would already know.

    If it was a single friend just pokin around the internetz, I proby wouldnt say anything to avoid an awkward moment. Although I wont lie, I would have to spy on what he/she would have to say just to see lol. Oh cmon, you wouldnt?

    This is why I dont post me online :)
     
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    well if your not innuendoes and not physically doing anything to others and not saying anything bad to others directly so what....life is too short what ever the reason, as long as your not hurting anyone then carry on...Everyone needs some sort of release whatever it is....
     
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    None of my business and would not deem it appropriate make it one.
    We should not be judge and jury of others actions in such matters.
    Furthermore any action we may take will not result in anybody being grateful.
    Live & let live..........each to his/her own destiny.
     
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    I would never tell the partner. Ever. IF I'd say anything it would be to the person him/her self first. It's not my business to get involved in their relationship or start possible drama.
    As with myself...I would like the same respect to ask me first and not go running to anyone blabbing.
     
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    I would probably say nothing and try to avoid direct interaction with them on the site. I probably wouldn't want them to know it's me. Even though my partner knows about my involvement on sex sites, my family and friends don't and I want to keep it that way.
     
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    I've known someone that this happened to.. and it was met with very bad results. She spotted her best friends husband on a dating site..and of course she said something to her.

    The couple had it out.. & eventually reconciled. The only casualty of the incident was the friendship between the girl and the wife.
    Why? Not really sure. I attributed it to the "kill the messenger" syndrome.. but I am sure that there was friction between the husband and the friend as well.

    It just goes to show that you never really know how someone is going to react to the news. What if you tell her or him about it, and they run off and murder their spouse or harm themselves due to being so distraught?

    I have known a lot of cheating couples over the years.. and it has always been my policy to stay out of it. I just play ignorant of what is going on. Eventually it will work itself out one way or another.
     
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    Ok, having ben with someones wife, and a couple of friends girlfriends before, if they were in a relationship, no I wouldn't say anything to there partner. people have needs, and if there needs aren't getting met at home, obviously they are going to go else where. A couple years ago one of my best friends girlfriend came to me, and told me she was atracted to me, and he was not meeting her needs. She didn't want to leave him, she just had needs. So, for the past couple years now, we have ben having sex almost atleast once a month. As wrong is it might be, I would never tell him. Although, I think he might know anyway, I'm still not taking that chance. If it was someone I wanted to have sex with, I might would say something to them, depending on who it was, and if I thought I stood a chance. But to answer your question, no I would not tell anyone else, no matter who it was.
     
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    Thanks for the responses - I thought I was doing the right thing!

    COSMICEYE
    Although I wont lie, I would have to spy on what he/she would have to say just to see lol. Oh cmon, you wouldnt?
    Very Funny and yes I spy! hahaha
     
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    I would either black mail them or not give a rip.
     
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    What?
    Shocked that any of you would NOT bring it up?!?!!
    I guess it does depend of the person you found and the relationship, although I can not think of anyone I know who I would not bring it up to.
    I have seen plenty of friends on family on forums, cam sites, porn sites, and sex dating sites. I have and would never hesitate to bring it up to them in a light hearted comfortable friendly setting.
     
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    My thing is, people are people, right? It's, honestly, none of my concern. Of course I'd have to make it like that. What are people's reactions when you try to control their lives? To almost instantly become defensive and turn a truth-sayer into a villain. Of course, the person could take it the way it is meant to be taken and it could very well strengthen their lives; but thus far I've learned that people expect people to allow them to do as they please. I have a friend who cheated on his ex-girlfriend twice. While he was in the relationship, he told me this. I mentioned that it wasn't the appropriate thing to do, but I left it at that.
     
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    ummm, ur both on the same site. it shouldn't be awkward.
     
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    Well yes, we are on same site, but that does not mean it can't be awkward - sharing alot of personal info and preferences on here that are meant to be shared "publicly"...does that make sense?
     
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    Personally if I found someone on here I knew, I'd be like 'hey I know you!"

    A good amount of my friends list are people I know in real life. I either worked with them, went/go to school with them or met them at a kink club I'm part of.

    This is an adult site. If you're an adult you should act as one when sharing information about sex and the like. Acting like children and making it awkward just shows how immature one would be about the situation.

    Now, if my friends husband was on the website etc? No, I wouldn't say anything. It's not my place to. Nor would I try to talk to member on the website. Unless they came to me specifically and were asking for sex/photos then I'd just leave it be. There's no point in going to my friend and saying "omg do you know your mans on a SEX SITE!"

    Like it or not, this isn't a sex site. It's an adult forum. Which directly translates to Adult Discussion Board. 9/10 people come here for HELP, not to get laid. There's no point in tattle telling because someone in a relationship needs a little help.
     
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    Well this isn't a good place ot get laid anyways, the traffic isn't high enough for successful hook ups
     
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    Just to clarify - the question was "if you saw a profile for someone you know on a sex dating site...." I did not mean Sexual Forums b/c this is definetly not a dating site - just wanted to hear how others would handle this - advice/opinions....
    Thanks