would you finish some one over no sex?

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  1. xbearkatx

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    i am seriously considering breaking up with my b/f of over a year over no sex or passion theres just nothing there anymore i try to have sex and he refuses, i dont even wanna be in the same room as him half the time because he just irritates me it'd be hard to leave as we live together but whats the point if its going to go this downhill after a year i cant see it getting better
    this is selfish is it? i have tried many times but i cant seem to make him fancy me anymore
    thanks :) x
     
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    If you feel that you have truly given it your all and there is no improvement, then I do not think it is selfish. Relationships have ended over smaller matters. I don't think people have to have the same sex drive for it to work, but there needs to be some sort of compromise. Why waste your life being unfulfilled?
     
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    It sounds as if it's time to make a change. Take him out of hus misery.
     
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    Is he's waiting until more time passes by, or until marriage? Either way, I would respect his decision....He should AT LEAST be passionate with you and tell you why he's not having sex with you.

    May I ask you haven't had sex yet, after a year of being together?
     
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    Im assuming that this is the same guy you have posted a pic of in your gallery.....if that's the case, I'd be removing the photo.
    As for the original question.....YES, I feel that you already know that its time to move on in your life....:)
     
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    why would you remove the pic?
    and thanks x
     
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    WHy would you even think about being with someone that wants no physical contact. I'd break it off in a heartbeat.
     
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    Break up, that's all.
     
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    if theres no passion left why stay? isnt that what all relationships start over physical attraction passion towards another person? i woulda left already lol i am kind of an ass though...
     
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    im going through the same thing but not as bad. If your not getting any leave him and go get some. Its a human need, i dont get why he is not hungry for it?
     
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    Once you kow what it's like it's kinda hard to go without when there is a partner to share intimacy with.
     
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    Nope - not selfish. Sounds like it's time to end the relationship. Have you talked about it? If there's no hope, then leave.
     
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    Sex is central for most lasting relationships.
    Yours is apparently over before it has really begun.
    Move on xbearkatx; find someone who appreciates you and makes you happy.
    Good luck!
     
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    This phrase caught my attention. If his mere presence irritates you that is not a good sign.
    I had a relationship like that with an ex of mine when we lived together. We lived together for 8 years picking holes at each other. I think we both had a very toxic influence on each other.
    When we broke up it was very difficult, but now 3 years later, we're really good friends and talk to each other about almost anything.
     
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    I think i would leave them, not because sex is everything, just because sex is important. If there is affection, or some kind of get-off passionate atmosphere then that is bearable. However, nothing atall isn't a relationship in my opinion

    best of luck
     
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    is there a decision in this matter yet im kinda curious?
     
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    Because posting his picture on a sex site where his face is clearly visible, and then posting on the same site that he doesn't like to fuck you is a bitch move, that's why. Duh!
     
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    Yes, this is a good point, my last relationship went this way. I was much happier once we broke up.
     
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    If you can't stand each other any more, it's over. If you're willing to sit down and talk about what's going on, maybe it'll work. Maybe there's some kind of underlying medical reason why his sex drive has vanished?