Would you ever have a 3some or however manysome?

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  1. Black_Magic83

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    I NEVER WOULD.

    Call me old fashioned but I believe sex should be between two people.

    I could not deal with the drama and aftermath after the incident.

    I really do not know how people can do it - each to their own I suppose. What about the jealousy, insecurity, what happens if the partner sees it as an open invitation to sleep around and not tell you?

    What are your views?
     
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    Ok, I would be willing to do it, yep I would.
    Would I/we survive now that is another question altogether.
    Depends a lot on participants involved.
    Recently had the opportunity of MMF and attended but when it came push to shove the woman backed out....cool but if it did go ahead where would I be today?
    Don't know but in strange way happy it did not.
    WTF?
     
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    We have had a threesome with another man. He only had sex with my husband though and didn't touch me or anything like that. We actually enjoyed it very much. I love watching my husband get and give pleasure to another man.

    We have talked about a threesome with another woman and we might do it one day. I still can't handle the fact that it would be another woman and not a man. Mostly because a lot of woman tend to get attached and men don't.
     
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    I have had many two-male and one female threesomes with other couples, two two women threesomes with me, and two sessions of many (maybe a dozen) men with one woman. This group sex was strange, as I was the first first time, and third second time, and you're having sex knowing there's several (or more) pairs of eyes watching you. First time was hard, second time easy.

    It's hypothesised that sex has been a public act for most of our evolution and a private act only in the evolutionary recent past. This is why we get turned on by porn (watching other people have sex), and why we get turned on watching other people have sex, and why being watched while having sex is a turn-on as well.
     
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    I Am A Man And I Must Say That, I Don't Like The Idea Of Meaning Less Sex! Have Any Of You People Ever Heard Of Polyamory? ( Don't Get It Mixed Up With Polygamy, Polygamy And Polyamory Are Not The Same! ) Polyamory Mean Many Loves For Both Men And Women, And Yes They Do Raise A Family, Just Like Monogamy! If I Was In Love With More Than 1 Girl, Then Yes I Would Have Group Sex! Also I Am Okay If They Have Me And Another Dude As There Boyfriends, As Long As All Of Us Are Strait! I Do Want To Raise A Family In Such A Relationship! There Are Many Benefits In This Relationship Than What Monogamy Can Offer, Both In Health And In Money, Also More Time And Flexibility, Too! Hmmm.... I Am Not Sure If I Would Do This With My Friends? You Know Friends With Benefits? I Think I Will Stick With A Group Love Relationship, Like Polyamory!
     
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    Let me start by simply stating that I have been in a number of threesomes (all FFM). They all took place a couple of years ago.
    I enjoyed all of my experiences with no regrets. I don't know if i'll get the chance to experience this again. I hope so.
    I have always said that I would not have a MMF threesome, because I don't like being to overwhelmed during any sexual experience. Perhaps it is a control problem.
    Same can be said about a group sex scenario. However, I have often fantasied about it. I also enjoy the thought of filming it.
     
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    I would love to with my wife and one of her best friends. I think about it often....
     
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    I have had a threesome (mmf), and it did cause a rift in our relationship. Though it was one of the most exciting sexual experiences I have had, I feel it was not worth it. It did not tear us apart, but it did cause a few problems that had to be dealt with.

    The idea of swinging or group sex can be a turn on, but I'll leave that to my fantasies. All in all, love is far more important than an empty orgasm to me.


    Two cents.
     
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    I've never had any type of threesome. If I didn't have a SO and it was "just for fun" I might consider trying it. However, I think I would have too many jealousy issues to participate in a threesome etc. with a true romantic partner.

    I have fantasized about it, but as Gummo just said, I'll leave it to my fantasies only.
     
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    No, I'm a 2 person kind of guy. Have never wanted a 3some or group.
     
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    NO!! Not my cup of tea. I dont share my man and I sure as hell dont want to be shared!
     
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    Not interested, though in college I missed the signals two women who lived on my floor were giving me about their interest in having one with me (they didn't push it, they told me years later at a reunion, because as they got to know Bunnie they liked her and didn't want to cause problems with her by pursuing me).

    Years ago a woman with more than a few issues that Bunnie was mentoring told us she was having fantasies about being in a threesome with us, but it just wasn't something we wanted to pursue. I have my hands full as it is. :)
     
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    there are dating web sites that cater to mindless sex, for those of you that want it! and there are dating web sites where people in multiple love relationships, can meet each other!
     
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    I wouldn't with my boyfriend. I wouldn't be able to stand another girl touching him. He doesn't want to have a threesome either, so it works out!
    If I were single and I might if I were comfortable with the two others.
     
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    if love is so great, then why not share it with people you care about? when people place ownner ship to others, that's when things go wrong! it took more than 2 people to make rome you know! if rome was bulit in a day, that would take a heck of a lot of people to do so, and that's a fact!
     
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    Honestly, I'm just not interested in having sex with anyone but him.
     
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    no. i may be one of the only guys that will say this. but i have no desire for such things. i like to be with one woman and to make love to one woman. thats all i need ;).
     
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    I think I just fall on the side of no, as Lynne says, I couldn't cope with another man having it with my wife. I have to say, I would love to see a woman make it with me and my wife, but that is unfair. You cannot have it both ways. I will stick to my mind for this.

    PDOne7
     
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    Since I no longer have a wife my options would be limited. I guess if I had any close male friends and was asked, I might give it a whirl but doubt that it's healthy for a marriage in the long run.
    (I guess one might say I did have threesomes while married. Only I didn't participate in any way other than financially)
     
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    Not that I am 100% for it but to even be considered as a possibility, rules would have to be carved in stone before hand.
    Best to have an open honest discussion about every last detail of the possible situation including feelings. Factoring in every possible scenario, at least in my own situation.