Would you consider me a nymphomaniac?

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  1. Black_Magic83

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    Hi guys...

    I have been with my other half for just over 2 years now and he really does satisfy me. When we have sex, it is great but then when we are finished, I immediately want more.

    I lost my virginity at 17- that was to a 24 year old. To me, it was over too quickly. I thought to myself "Is that it?!" I think from then I knew I must have had a high sex drive!! I am 28 now and while I was a younger, before I lost my virginity, I was always horny and would masturbate alot. I was with my ex of 5 years and sex was no existent with him, he would say that I was a freak- I am not that kinky, I just wanted sex more than once a week, that was all. We only had sex about once a week, usually on the weekend. I was with him from the ages of 21-26.. he was 31-36- I dont know if the age gap had anything to do with it. He was an over-thinker with conspiracies and was obsessed with the Illuminati, Nation of Islam, Slavery and Spike Lee ( he was half white and half black). I think the overthinking may have killed his sex drive, there were ocassions where he could not get an erection. I never once cheated on him, I just watched alot of porn and 'sorted myself out' to that. I told him that there were men out there that would kill to be with a woman with my hunger for sex. He could not handle blowjobs, he would push me off because he could not handle the sensation.


    My bf now, is white and I have always, always been attracted to white men, I do not know why, It was since I was a teen, my first crush was Keanu Reeves and Larry Mullen Jr. I think as I was growing up, all I saw was white people- music, tv, film etc, never really had a 'black' upbringing if that makes sense. I think I tried a mixed race guy because I thought I would give it a go!

    My bf found me on facebook, added me randomly in a group "White guys like black girls too!" It was mainly an American group, but I posted I was from the UK. He then added me. We went on two dates, one date on one day and another the next day. At the end of the second date, we went home our separate ways and texted eachother saying we should make a go of it. The rest is history!


    My bf and I had sex last night and I wanted more after that, we nodded off, then woke up this morning and then I wanted more.. we did have sex this morning, he then perfomed oral sex (because that is the only way I can reach orgasm). After that, I still wanted more after that and then got him hard again and had sex with him again.

    He kept saying "Oh God, what are you like woman!" He asked me what was it, the sex, the fact that he satisfies me, or the fact that I am very attracted to him... I said all three! I joked with him saying, I hope I am not worse when I am in my 30's because that is when the average woman hits the sexual peak. On average, we have sex about 6-7 times a week, alot over the weekend.



    We do alot of roleplay (cop and criminal, master and slave, pupil and teacher, adulterous couple etc) use food sometimes, blindfolds, light bondage, sex games ( dice, cards etc ). We text and email eachother erotic messages through the working day to keep eachother on our toes. I have never done phone sex (something I have never been into) it's always been about saucy emails and texts that I do.

    I don't know if it is because we are so sexually compatible with one another that I just want more. It's like someone who loves eating chocolate (excuse the pun), they just want more!



    What is it that makes someone have such a high sex drive? From what I have writen, would I be described as a nympho?
     
  2. Meee

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    It's my understanding that "nymphomania" is a judgemental word and a word that's used to label a problem. I think nymphomania means a sex drive that actually makes problems in a peson's working life and social life and so on. I'm not really hearing that in the situation you're describing. It does sound like your partner is impressed with your sex drive, LOL, and I assume happy about it, and maybe a little intimidated, but not necessarily in a bad way. My humble ( :lol ) opinion is that you should be comfortable and pleased with your sex drive and don't worry about labels that judge it.
     
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    Thanks for your response Meee, I once thought I was a sex addict, but I was corrected by my man, he said that it is a judgemental label, a sex addict tends to let their 'problem' affect their day to day life and they tend to have alot of casual sex with strangers and masturbate multiple times a day.

    Food for thought there...
     
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    I wouldn't consider you a nymphomaniac :)

    You sound like a woman who enjoys having sex.
     
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    Yes, and it's my understanding that "nymphomaniac" is an old word for a female sex addict. So, if you feel that you aren't a sex addict, then that would apply to nymphomania too.
     
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    I'm actually involved in a research project on this, and what they are doing is measuring female testosterone levels. The theory is that women of some races, for example African, have higher levels of testosterone and therefore a higher sex drive. My wife is also coloured and she has been insatiable for more than 25 years, so the results of what I'm helping out with will interest me. My wife was recovering from an operation and we hadn't had sex for a week, and she really needed it! We had sex, gently using a position which wouldn't hurt her. Fortunately I have a high sex drive too, and it hasn't waned although I boost my testosterone with some herbal supplements (so her post-operation sexual need wasn't a problem for me).

    Anecdotally, African men are known for high sex drives, so it's likely that African women and African men are matched in this regard.

    Even if the theory on female testosterone by race proves incorrect or inconclusive, there is no doubt that some women have higher sex drives than others.
     
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    no, you just have a high sex drive. eventually it'll level off. not a nympho though. watch the movie 'group sex' its a comedy, but relevant.
     
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    Thank you very much for your insightful message CBRMALE. It could be true, I could have alot more testosterone than normal.

    How is the study going? Is your wife a similar age to you?

    My partner hopes that when he is alot older his sex drive does not wane either!
     
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    i think you need to relax
    strange advice
    this may be because you can't get enough deep relax, during and after, to cool your fires to the level of pendulum-walk.
    you need it up, then down. and it's like the men's organ works
    we need a play than stop, relax, then up again and so on. if there is a deep relax (no uncertainty, fool down switch off) then we will want more and different. if we don't have it we fire out! (can have multiple orgasms but the desire and will burn out)
    like in any other activity: activity and pauses.

    and sometimes to become fully satisfied you need physical work (i mean certain positions)

    cbrmale i think that the main thing comes from culture. and the culture itself affects testosterone and other indicators and chemistry. such thought :)
     
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    I'm only involved on the fringes of the study. The pathology laboratory I work for can test for female testosterone, so the lab is processing their specimens. I don't know how the study is actually going, but from what I know of testosterone and sex drive, the theory makes sense.

    Men, when they age, suffer a decline in their primary hormone which is testosterone. Women also suffer a decline, but in estrogen, which means they end up with a higher sex drive as they get older! Men can reduce the level of testosterone depletion by the usual things: eating well and lots of exercise. These are the two best ways for men to retain their sex drives as they get older.

    In my case I probably always had a higher than average level of testosterone, and still do.
     
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    You just have to have a SO with a similar drive. Its not over the top. My sex drive is very much the same and I feel ok with it. After sex, about ten minutes later it like I haven't had it in weeks.
     
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    you are not a nymphomaniac by any standards, you have a high and healthy sex drive. my partner and I have a very similar sex drive to yours. by the way your partner neednt worry about losing his, i am almost sixty and if anything my sex drive has got higher lol, xx
     
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    I laughed when I read that. Solely because of the connotation it has here in the states.

    Though I agree with you. The factors that make this possible are numerous. Increased testosterone, increased estrogen (with progesterone levels not matching the accurate ratio), psychological linkings such as being bipolar, etc.

    Are you a nympho? The consensus seems to be no. I differ in opinion. I think you are a nympho. Is that a bad thing though? No. You're not cheating so the no harm no foul rule applies here. You having the libido you have certainly isn't wrong by any means. I suggest you embrace it and stop worrying if it's bad or wrong if that is what you're doing. Just go with it. Be happy that this bloke has sex 6-7 times a week as apposed to your ex.
     
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    mmmm! I think a girl with your sex drive is freakin hawt, black magic83!
     
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    Why thank you PHX *curtsies* :p
     
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    BM, you are by no means what you suggested initially or if you are then it is not that unusual.
    My own SO is in a similar place with regards to sex and will want and have it as often as she can.............with me.
    On weekends we do it several times a day and that really lights her fire wanting more so then she resorts to her array of vibrators. Sometimes I help but more often I am so shagged out asleep.
    I do not consider this as my failure to satisfy her needs but simply that her libido is very healthy and way higher than mine.
    Many guys would envy that situation.