women who have multiple partners - different limits with different men?

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    do such women have different limits with different man depending on his attractiveness?

    for eg with one guy who is very goodlooking/attractive, she may be willing to do certain sex acts like blowjob and anal or allow him to have rough sex. but with a more regular looking guy, she may only have plain sex. she will not perform oral on him, not let him handle her roughly or do anal.
     
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    I wouldn't be having casual sex with someone I didn't find drop dead gorgeous.

    But, when I was having an affair (which I'm NOT proud of) I did lots of nasty things with my lover, whilst having very little sex with my hubby. Hubby was by far the better looking one. The difference? One made me feel wanted, sexy, desirable... The other made me feel like a maid & baby sitter. Guess which is which.
     
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    Hard to figure out ...

    stubbornness, shyness, level of fantasies, ethics ...

    A girl may have fantasies but she can not ask her partner because she is too shy too ask or too stubborn to accept .. but she can be much more open with a sexy stranger guy seducing her , to fullfill her fantasies...

    Mainly it is chemistry , attraction and repulsion and there are not rules for that ..
     
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    my sexual needs are my sexual needs, they certainly don't change based on his looks.

    not to mention i don't date men that i don't find attractive.

    i think it would all depend on how open he is with his sexuality, meaning i only have 'limits' if he does.
     
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    Since you mentioned, "i don't date men that i don't find attractive.", I have to ask something that's been puzzling me for a while now.
    Why does a woman have leniency with being "choosey" with their men but guy's like me get a rough time and a punch to the pride when we say we want a sexy woman?
    I find all women equally beautiful but some are sexier then others and people hate me for saying that.(people = women) :ugh
     
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    I still say you're perfect^^
     
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    There's a difference between attractive and sexy or beautiful. Some men are unattractive, especially if they haven't looked after themselves, or maybe it's just they way they are. Some women ditto, and we men typically don't give such women a second look either.
     
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    There was a girl, long ago, that my group of friends would pass around like a joint basicly. But it was pretty well missoinary or doggy with all the other guys, I was the only one of four of us that she did anal with and she'd get on top and go nuts. I was also the only one she'd just go down on if the whole group was sitting around watching sports or a movie.
     
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    Well aren't you special, you win.
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    Maybe, maybe not, I don't know why it went down that way, I never asked her. I was just responding, apparently some women do have different levels they will do with multiple partners. If I can track her down, I'll try to find out.
     
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    who's judging you because you're picky? who the fuck cares, its your life. you're allowed to be as fucking picky as you want.
     
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    I'm not judging, I'm was picky as hell, thin, fit, 95% blonde, most were cheerleaders..... What's wrong with going after what you are REALLY attracted to? Even if I was single, I'm not going to sleep with someone I just find "OK" or "decent".
     
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    do you think it had to do with your attractiveness?
    or just other factors, like she was closer to you or something.
     
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    my question is regarding casual sex; one night stands, fuck-buddies, FWB's. not dating and relationships.
     
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    Not really sure, only one of the four had "questionable" looks, some people would get me and one of the guys mixed up all of the time. I definately had the most "outgoing" personality of the bunch, if you had to name a "leader", I was considered it. Aside from that, I really don't know, we never pulled out the ruler and measured dicks.
     
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    i dont have casual sex but as i said in my previous answer:

    my sexual needs are my sexual needs, they certainly don't change based on his looks.

    this would apply if i did have casual sex either way.

    i would not lower my standards in any situation.
     
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    Nope. Maybe some do, but I doubt it's common or based on "hotness." Things like that are usually based on the level of intimacy and comfort they have with a given person.