[Ask a Girl] Women, is your sexual programming learned, or is it instinctive

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  1. martin9p2

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    Specifically, I'm talking about your horniness level. If you threw all your sexual training and concept of properness out the window, would you be horny and turning your rumps up to attractive men, or would you act somewhat reserved like you do now?
     
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    I'm pretty sure I can speak for all men and say that, instinctively, I'd screw about half women at the grocery store if it weren't for standards of behavior that stop me. :)
    What do women have to say on this topic?
     
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    I'm horny and I turn my rump up to one attractive man. I don't think of myself as reserved, I think of myself as being in love.

    Propriety doesn't affect how horny I am or how much sex I have, it affects where and when I have sex, and who sees it or knows about it. If I could throw away propriety, I think I would still have the same amount of sex, but some of it would be more public.

    But I don't think I want to throw away propriety. It makes the privacy--when we finally get it--delicious.
     
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    I know in my case, I became a very horny person quite fast and out of the blues, this happened within the last month or two. My lever from 1-10 was a 20 and pretty much all concept of properness went right out the window, I had to begin to worry about breaking any laws because I wanted to fuck 24/7. Dont need to be arrested public ludeness or what ever it is called. I was not trained to feel this way it just happened all the sudden. It is called HORMONES. And you guys have alot of that wonderful testosterone and apparently someone put testosterone in my pain meds when I broke my shoulder because that seemed to trigger something when I discontinued the strong shit.
    Well, that is my two cents
     
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    Re: What we need today!

    We NEED more in the world like you! God bless you! I wish you lived in NY!
     
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    :lol I love going grocery shopping sometimes. Depends on the neighborhood.
    But I know what you mean. Regardless of whether we were taught to be, or hardwired to be, or decide to be discriminating for the sake of social survival, sometimes I just wish I could just fuck random hotties that turn me on.:dgrin

    Spoken like a true pervert, I know. But to address the question, I'm sure many women have the same thoughts.
     
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    I will attempt to give my GF's viewpoint here then mine.
    Like Awakened her libido came alive suddenly at age 26 when she met me.
    I don't know what she saw in this old fart but she got it bad and if there were 25 hours a day she would use that extra hour to lay me some more. I have asked her if this robust lust translates to other guys and she says not in the least. As a guy that does not compute but then what do I know how she thinks? As for me, yep despite the quantity I still fantasise every time I see a pretty face and out shopping often play the game; would I bother chasing that woman or not? I reckon it comes down to about 1 in 10.
     
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    I dont think many women have these thoughts or at least they dont tell anyone they do. I do but I think if we all did there would be much more fucking going on.

    It is funny you all mention fucking women at the grocery store because last night we joked about the hotties at the GOOD grocery store last night . Both of us stated we of ten think to ourselves " I wonder what it would be like to fuck him/her". I sometimes look at guys and think" Oh shit, scary fuck":eek
     
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    I sometimes look at guys and think" Oh shit, scary fuck":eek

    That's funny shit right there!
     
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    Awakened, just love your posts!!!!
     
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    If everything I have learned or what I have been programmed to think was stripped away I still think I wouldn't fuck random guys. Because horniness for me happens mostly in my head.... my hormone levels don't rise unless there's that mental connection. Trust is also extremely important to me - if I don't trust I don't enjoy sex that much. In my younger days when I was out partying and having one night stands I dulled that need to for trust with alcohol. So I never really enjoyed one night stands, because of lack of trust and because of the dulling effect booze has. Didn't stop me from having them though :-/
     
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    I think I've always been horny; since I was about 11, and it wasn't hormones. I think I've always felt horny but when I was younger I didn't know what that feeling was (I was EXTREMELY ignorant). But discovering porn and having sex education doesn't increase my libido that much which is about 10+ out of 10.

    The thing that stops me from being open about it is my reputation and respect. They are very hard to earn and so easy to lose. If I were to do what I want which is fuck almost every man I see, people would label me a whore, a slut and they would all look down on me. Plus other things that prevent from being open is unwanted attention, STI and getting pregnant :/ lol so it's not a bad thing, it's just prtecting myself and being prudent.

    But once I'm in a relationship all my sex energy will be showered on my boyfriend, I won't be holding back ;)
     
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    Behaving like a lady is important for me in the real world. Staying healthy and being disease free is real real important to me. If you saw me in real life I’m what you would call truly reserved, I behave like a lady in the public’s eyes because its so important that I am respected and not taken in the wrong way, plus I think being someone's Mom and Wife, I think I wouldn’t want to do anything to hurt my them. But if there were a world where you could take away properness and correctness and remove all standards of behavior in this society, like being lady like, yes I think I would fuck every man I want to fuck,( like my next door neighbor damm he’s hot), LOL but anyway because we are in this society I must remain a lady. Thank Goodness for places where we can express ourselves like here or I think I would be backed up. I guess that's where living your best life and having fantasies is what helps keep me from being a truly bad girl.
     
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    My wife in public is reserved or that's the appearance she wants, she, like me, is very picky but in our bedroom, she's far from reserved. Of the 47 women I've had the pleasure of, only a couple were reserved.

    And you haven't been shopping a WalMart. I may see one a month that I find attractive, and she's usually too young. Sure I'm horny, but I'm ultra picky.
     
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    No, actually from blank to 18 yrs old, 46 while in high school. Met my wife my freshman year of college and it's been 47 total for the last 28 yrs.
     
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    Horniness is driven by testosterone in women, and at the moment a study is underway to measure testosterone in women from different races and cultures. It's thought that some races have more, some less, and some women suffer a decline in testosterone, and therefore a decline in libido, when in a relationship. If this is the case and early indicators are that it is, then it's mostly physical and not mental, and it's a trait that has evolved.