Womans opinion wanted: Husband wants me sleep with a stranger

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  1. Jerzgirl

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    Ok, a little background first. We have been together for about 13 years and we have an amazing relationship and a great sex life. We have, from time to time, dabbled lightly in swinging (a few mfms and same room sex with another couple). It was always fun and never caused any problems for us. Now my husband desperately wants me to meet someone new for one on one sex without him. While this idea really gets me going I find that when it comes time to meet someone I have trouble bringing myself to actually set something up.

    I'd really like to hear from women who have done this before. What was is like? How did you feel about it and how did it affect your marriage? I think in just scared and hearing from those who have done this might help.
     
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    Just curious...why does he want to not be present?
     
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    I asked him that and he says he wouldn't be able to keep himself from joining in. Also we have a 6 month old so it is easier for me to go do it on my own with him watching the baby than for us to find a sitter.
     
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    Are you kidding?
     
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    No, I'm not kidding. I'm looking for some input from any others who have experimented with this.
     
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    I have never been married, so I can't give you any perspective, but as soon as I read your post a little thought came to me. Call me ridiculous if you want, but is it possible he has someone he wants to have sex with without your presence or that he has already done this and this his way of paving the way for the acceptability of it in your marriage? I mean no offense, by the way.
     
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    Or, maybe he has already slept with this other person and is covering his tracks.
     
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    with all due respects, your querying this idea, Its a no go....I think tho I have not done anyhing like that myself tho want to, you need to be 100% as afterwards it will leave you cold Im sure......I hope all the other readers look at it the similar way
     
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    He probably just wants to try it out. If you've both been with others when you're in the same room it will be just like that except that he has no idea what's going on. I would be quite certain that you both want this before going for it. You can always try with him being there first to make absolutely sure that it's ok between the two of you.
     
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    I have this fantasy too. I want my wife to be with another man without me being present. I haven't been with another woman since we are married and nor is it a fantasy of mine. I dont know why, but the idea of my wife with another man with my knowlledge is a huge turn on for me!!
     
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    I appreciate the responses. I do not need insight on his motives as I already understand them and this is a VERY common fantasy for married men.
     
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    Wow, not any kind of fantasy for this happily married man. That just sounds like a crazy recipe for trouble. IMHO
     
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    Wow I work in NJ but northern jersey. Jus saying lol

    I think that's def normal for him to want that. He prob just wants to hear all the sexy things your going to tell him afterward....good luck!
     
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    I've actually read that this fantasy is more common than people would think. That "cuckold" thingy or whatever it's called.
     
  15. Cappy_Dick

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    This is actually quite common. Google Hot Wife Lifestyle for more information. It happens a lot more than you might think.

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