without your spous(partner) knowing

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  1. morningrooster

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    Is being on SF whith out your spouse knowing considered cheating ?
    New member I got hurt and was laid up for a few days in bed . Surfing the web I found SF . I like it iv meet some cool people, chating , pm ,Flirting that kind of thing. Expessing my thoughts and feeling.
    Would my wife get pissed probably. Would she divorce me probably not.
    Do I feel like im cheating . IDK im just haveing fun im honest with everyone I chat with . Im not going out and meeting people .I haven't rubbed one out yet . Id watch porn and rub one out no problem lol why not chat
     
  2. sandwich

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    I suppose it all goes better when your SO knows about this place. It took me a while to tell my guy, but I did, and I can tell ya, I am sure glad he did not get on here and read every last thing I posted. Cheating is a strong term, so I don't think that's what this is. I do, however, think secrets can lead to more secrets.
     
  3. alwaystry

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    It is not cheating but it doesn't mean they would like it. If you are trying to hook up then maybe there is aproblem.but looking at pics on hereis no differant than looking at porn or an attractive person on the street.and talking about sex isnormal...unless like I said, you are trying to hook up
     
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    There is physical cheating and emotional cheating.

    I think watching porn isn't personal, all fantasy. Chatting with people starts to get emotional - into a grey area depending on how far the connection goes. Is it like talking to a fantasy or is it a connection with a real person.

    The line could vary for each person/relationship.
     
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    my wife doesnt know about this place i dont know that i will tell her either lol but i might lol
     
  6. Silverfox

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    It could be argued either way.

    I told Silverette when I first joined, because I didn't want to take the chance she'd react badly. Having said that, I now have a rule. In the general forums, I don't post anything I wouldn't want her to read. We're both liberal, to a point, and she doesn't mind, but I still keep my rule in mind.

    That's just my opinion.
     
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    but i will add i dont know wat she does online either
     
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    Is it bc she trusts you to act a certain way? Bc she's not doing anything that you wouldn't approve of?
     
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    that is so true i do trust her whole heartedly
     
  10. Meee

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    Chat could play with people's hearts. Porn just plays with your...

    I showed the boyfriend these forums when I joined. He looked at it to make sure I made it clear that I was already taken. Then he left it to me as my "toy."
     
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    I think it is kind of a stretch to consider this cheating. But then that is just my thoughts.
     
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    I have been here for years so that predates my current relationship and is something I wanted to keep to myself but got careless and she found out and read everything including all private messages. That got me in the dog house for a few days then she relented or needed sex :)
    Now she check occasionally so I am more circumspect about discussing past experiences but she is happy enough about me telling of ours sex life particularly that she is always so horny and ready for it!
     
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    If I had been on the site prior to my relationship with Silverette, I would have considered it personal, although I would have explained what the site is about. I still consider my participation personal, even though I told her, since I joined after we married, and also told her, if she ever snoops, be prepared for what she reads.

    We each use different browsers (she uses IE and I use Chrome) and have the same rules about her purse and my wallet. Don't go snooping.
     
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    This hits home. Before NO. I didn't engage in philanderous activity.
     
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    I told mine showed her the sight she won't participate. She does like some of the stuff I learn. She says it gives me someone to talk about sex with. She likes to talk some about sex but says sometimes I talk about it to much. So it all works out.
     
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    Damn people. Where has the trust gone. I met and and dating a girl who could have any guy she wants. Our first couple of dates I told her everything. My likes and wants. It has made all the difference. She gets to play when she needs it. Our trust is 100%.