With whom we can do sex except our lovers in the society !

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  1. pixy

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    With whom we can do sex in the society except our lovers ?
     
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    Are you meaning who else can you have sex with other than just your partner ?

    I would have to say no one else at all, unless your partner knows and is willing to accept that you wish sex with other people
     
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    Uh, nobody, unless all players are informed??
     
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    The stats show otherwise!

    There are oodles of studies that indicate that well over 1/2 of married couples have had sex with someone other than their spouse. Workplace sex is super common. You make friends in the office and one thing leads to another. And usually it's super hot! A lot of professionals I know have the rooms rented at a specific hour several days in advance. Many big cities have agencies specializing in this type of room.
     
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    Unfortunately, yes . . . but that doesn't make it okay, does it? If your spouse doesn't know that you are having sex with someone else, than it's CHEATING. It's dishonest and disrespectful, and I don't see how anyone can have a successful relationship without complete honesty and trust. If you don't think you can handle being faithful, then don't take the vows (unless there is some type of mutual agreement ahead of time). Just my 2 cents.
     
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    I never cheated on my ex wife, but dear god I wanted to. But none the less, cheating is a selfish and shitty act.
     
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    as most say, i would agree that you cant have sex with anyone when married other than your spouse.

    having said that, i would also say that when i took my vows i never promised to be sexual with only my wife, rather i promised to be totally honest and tell her if something did happen. infidelity does happen, but honesty will help overcome failings for couples that are dedicated to one another.

    btw, i wouldnt want to confuse habitual cheating with infidelity.

    dave
     
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    Wait. I think I misunderstood. I thought this thread was asking if it were a socially accepted practice. My new answer is, anyone we want. But that doesn't mean we should, if we're in a relationship, unless everyone knows.
     
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    ...er...Yourself.....after all,theres nothing like sex with someone you love...:jizz
     
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    Can you or should you?? You can have sex with about anyone you can talk into it. If your in a committed relationship that is for the two of you to decide.
     
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    What would happen if we talked about it?

    Would you say that 1/2 of today's standing marriages are unsuccessful? Sometimes a little variety and help you appreciate even more the person waiting back at home. And I wonder, why do most people sizzle with excitment over someone other than their spouse? And both men and women alike usually do! I know it's hard to handle, but ideally I think spouses shouldn't freak out so much if their partner needs a little variety. Ideally they should be able to talk about it. But usually they don't! I've had a lot of my men and women friends tell me "I don't want to know!" And life just goes on as usual; lunch hour quickies, and everyone acting as if nothing happened!
     
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    I'm sorry, but if my fiance wanted variety, he shouldn't have gotten engaged to me in the first place, unless this is something we talked about beforehand. I mean, we both watch porn, and are pretty adventurous with one another. If variety means dishonestly going behind my back to fuck other women, then screw that. That's screwed up, unless we're both into that kind of thing. I have a feeling that he would say the same thing as I just did. There are ways that one can get variety without fucking other people...I mean, isn't that what porn is for? People are attracted others yes, but that doesn't mean that it is alright to go around being dishonest. And, if he needed that, he should at least come to me first, so we could work something out.
     
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    I totally agree, Juicy. Espresso and I both fantasize about lots of stuff, and we talk about all of it. We do fantasize about other people, and have talked about trying out a threesome sometime. And we both know that if we did have the opportunity to experience someone else TOGETHER, it would actually bring US closer, and definitely make us appreciate eachother more. As long as it's something that both parties are into, it can be a great way to add to the relationship. However, going behind your partner's back to experience sex with another is a completely different thing. You are not enhancing your relationship, you're being selfish and deceitful. That is no way to get closer to your spouse. I'm very lucky that my husband and I are able to openly share these fantasies, and I know that many can't, like you said. But sleeping around won't fix that.