Hi. I had a friend tell me yesterday that she thinks I'm wishy-washy. She objects to the fact that I smoked a joint with her, but wouldn't tell my SO. Now I love my SO, but she is very conservative about some things. I felt a twinge of guilt at the thread title, "Does your SO know you post here." No, she wouldn't be into it, she'd be quite upset. The thing is we've been together three years, and we've changed. I love her and have no desire to leave her, but I'm not the same person I was when we started dating. Now my natural inclination is what she doesn't know won't hurt her. If she asked me whether I'd smoked, I'd tell her. If she asked me about this forum, I'd tell her. I'd also keep right on doing what I think is fine. But I feel no need to have those angry discussions. Is that wishy-washy? Do you have tell-all relationships with your SO's? If not, have you had any repercussions?