Will I hurt her?

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  1. stofer

    stofer New Member

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    Hey, I have been going out with this girl for a few months and she has decided that she is ready to have sex now. But, I think she is too tight for me. I have fingered her and we have had oral sex, but everytime we did it she was extremely tight. I am 7.5 inches long and about 4.5 to 5 inches in circumference. How should we do this so I dont hurt her?
     
  2. scorpio_nymph

    scorpio_nymph New Member

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    use lots of lube; she'll loosen up eventually
     
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    its not (huge) she should be just fine go slow
     
  4. Tanya

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    7.5 inches and 5 inches girth isn't big (average really), so use plenty of lube and I'm sure your G/F will loosen up eventually.
    I think the problem could be your G/F is just a little too tense at the moment and just needs to relax a little.
    Plenty of foreplay and arousal is the key.
     
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    Make sure she is completely relaxed and really aroused, and keep lube handy in case it is needed. Apart from that go slow and you should be ok.
     
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    A perfect answer here.
    A lot of people tend to forget that a Girl can be very
    tense the first time, And a lot of good foreplay
    is a good way to loosen Her up.

    Hiker
     
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    My one and only experience of a virgin was she convinced it was going to hurt, and she was very tense and nervous as a result. No matter how much I tried I couldn't relax her, so I just did it. It hurt a bit, but she said later not so badly. Second time we had sex was much better.

    The brain is very powerful, and if we get a thought in our heads that it will hurt then it is impossible to relax enough for it not to. Maybe it may need to hurt a little the first time so that the second time will be better.

    I'm a bit bigger than you (7.5 x 6.5), so that didn't help either.
     
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    Take you time and make sure she is relaxed. Good luck.
     
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    Slow and steady wins the race, also, if she doesnt naturaly produce enough wetness to make it like a slip and slide, get some of your own. If it hurts too much for her, just work her to it. Start with a finger, add another, add a third, keep adding fingers very very slowly (even though multiple days if you must) until she feels she is able enough to take your size.
     
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    Use lube, and take it easy. Most importantly, lots of foreplay. That will get the "juices going" and it will be an easier slide. At first it might feel like you won't fit into her, but give it a good, controlled shove. Once you've penetrated she'll get over the initial fear.
     
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    Does she like you going down on her?! haha that always gets me ready :D
     
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    take it slow, foreplay is the best remedy for pain
     
  13. Father Bob

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    she'll do ok

    she'll do ok with some foreplay. the vagina has the ability to accept almost any size dick. she's more than likely tense, and a lot of foreplay will get her lubed up, and putting in one finger then two and eventually your cock will slide in with little effort.

    it must just be the board, but there is a huge percentage of guys here with big dicks. the average cock is 5.75 inches when erect. it's the girth that makes the difference. most of a woman's vagina nerve endings are within the first 2 inches or so of her vaginal opening....so length doesn't mean as much as thickness.

    i have 1 5.5 inch cock, but its almost as big around as a pepsi can....that's what makes them moan for more!!
     
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    Agree 100%
     
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    Go with Tanyas advice, she knows by the sounds of it lol and I agree anyway
     
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    Measuring your forearm doesnt count lol
     
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    "i have 1 5.5 inch cock, but its almost as big around as a pepsi can....that's what makes them moan for more!!"

    Father Bob, you should get into the movie business:lol
     
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    walt disney maybe ? :p...............

    Fatherbob you made me laugh with that comment hehehe
     
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    Go slow, she'll be fine
     
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    Stofer, Have you ever thought of inviting Father Bob to loosen things up for you? My Pepsi Can measures 8 1/4. inches circumfrence.
    And Father Bob I dissagree that a Vagina can handle any size. With lube and relaxation I can accomodate a MAXIMUM of 71/2 inch length and I am comfortable but well stretched at 61/2 inch circumfrence. Similarly to you males, us ladies have different sized equipment.