Wild Woman

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by BinghamtonNY, Sep 28, 2008.

  1. BinghamtonNY

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    I married a sexually conservative, religion-fearing young lady. What had common interests and found each other attractive (still do). Initially I accepted her straight and narrow sexually perspective. After all, love runs far deeper.

    But as time went on, she started to have desires to try new things. Porn started to be an occasional addition to our foreplay and sex. While she was pregnant and was unable to have sex, I started to get really needy for sex. I had more fantasies than usual, and told her how hot it would get me to see her use a dildo "down there" while she gives me a bj. She actually had several dreams the following nights about doing just that! Not much surprises me in life anymore, but this did.

    So a few months after the birth of our child, we went dildo shopping. We had lots of fun with her new toy. Seeing it go inside her gave intense pleasure to both of us. We use it occasionally, but not as much as we had at first. She said it was most exciting using it the first time.

    I really want our sexual exploration to grow and get wilder. I realize (or she I say admit) that she is in control and leaving sexual choices up to her is really the only way it works.

    Any ideas from your own experiences for adding spice to our sexlife would be greatly appreciated.

    Thanks!
     
  2. Dreama

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    I would like to say, congratulations. Just because a person is conservative, it does not mean they can't like sex. I think it's great your wife sees that. But, I think leaving the control over what you do and don't try up to your wife is pretty safe, as she'll feel comfortable with things more. I'd just make suggestions...I mean, what do you like? What do you think she'd like? Think about those things, and playfully bring them up when you all are together. She seems relatively open to trying new things.
     
  3. BinghamtonNY

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    Thanks for the ideas, Dreama. What does she like? Hmmm...problem is, that sometimes seems to change by the day. Must be a woman thing. ;) I just try to figure it out...maybe I shouldn't.
     
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    Well, I'd have to say one of the best things you can do for your sex life is to just drop unnecessary inhibitions. There's nothing wrong with being conservative as long as she still lets herself enjoy it! Introduce her to new things slowly and gently. Toys are a great idea. Try finding some porn that isn't too abrasive to watch together. Try reading some erotic stories together. Try fantasizing together.

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