Since my wife does not talk very often or very much about everything she expects from me as a husband, this thread is to try to list and reveiw my wife's expectaions. Partly her desires are based upon her belief system, of how Love, Marriage, Men and Husbands are supposed to be. So one thing my wife expects is for me to take off her clothes, when she is ready to go to sleep for the night. One challenge is to figure out when she is actually ready to go to sleep. My wife feels comfortable with exual contact all through the nigt, althou she will occasionally express a desire to go to sleep, and she expects me to let her sleep for some cycle of minutges, butnot less than three minutes, in my experience. But not just rip them off, but to first elevate her in the bed. Massage is often the method I use to get her body supple and floating above the sheets. Once her electric energy field is sufficiently energized, then it is easy to glide off her pants and blouse. Part of the levitation can be enhanced by sucking and lickeing her nipples, rubbing her pubic mound and rubbing her breasts and nipples. Once I have her clothes off, she then expects contact wtih my magic wand. My penis should also get hard. She does not mind if I massage my penis with my hand, or rub my tip on her body parts. The penis should get hard, and be in contact with her legs and other body parts. She expects the penis to get hard and stay hard. So it is my part to keep it hard. My wife feels it is my job to keep a supply of lubricants on hand, and to apply lubricants as lubricants may enhance massaage or dry fucking or finger her clitoris or lips of her vagina My wife has an interrest in touching my penis, and it is my function to find a postion for me to lie, or kneel, from which she can touch and squeeeze my penis. But my wife expects me to be the one to move, to match whatever positions to which she feels like moving to. So it is my function to change positons, as she turns in her drowsiness, in geettng more comforatable as she is drifting into sleep. My wife feels that when she is sufficiently aroused, that she can give me some verbal cue that she is ready for intecourse. "Go get your stuff", or "Lie beside me" which is a positon for easy insertion. My wife expects not be be entered, unless she is consciously ready for that, and has indicated that. Up to that point, massaging and rubbing my penis on her muscles, and generally having good fun. If I wash my gentitals, and dry them with a bvlow driere, she will consider putting my penis in her mouth. She does not feel that it is her job to go to the bathroom and get a warm washcloth, and clean my penis while I lay in bed. I is my job to gecome clean and smell clean. Then, Maybe she will put my penis in her mouth. Usuall I try to get a blow job before I have put on too much lubrication. I need to remind mysle of what my wife expects, as I sometimes feel like I would like my wife to be more participatory, but that is probaly not going to happen too often, if ever. Ideas for new approaches? Better understandings?