Wife will she swap

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  1. Ilikebutts

    Ilikebutts New Member

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    Hello I would really like to share my wife. Something lately has been driving me to watch her suck someone else's dick. Only problem is how do I go about making this happen. I'm not sure how she will react to me bringing this up. We did have a guy join us once long ago. It kinda freaked me out. We were both drunk. I asked him to stop and he did and left. We have been together a long time and I think I'm ready now. Is she? Anyone else go through this? Suggestion here would be welcome.
     
  2. alwaystry

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    I have done it in the past and it's amazing. Currently I am in the same boat , I don't know how to bring it up so I have been "fishing" a bit during conversation to get her feelings on things related and "baiting" to see if she brings it up by me saying things that may lead her to believe that I may be cool with it. She is a bit more reserved than me. I get off on it bad! So basically I'm waiting for the right time to say yeah I would do it to her. Otherwise I may just have to ask and be more blunt. Slowly but surely , don't want to push it.
     
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    Well hopefully we can both figure it out.
     
  4. hotroddennis

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    If you guys figure this out let me know,I have brought this up at different times with mixed reactions,when she's all heated up and ready to fuck she sounds like maybe she would try a different cock...but when she cools off...no way.I don't understand why a woman wouldn't with her partners blessing,but that's just me
     
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    Well seems like this is a difficult question. I hope someone has the answer to help is all out.
     
  6. Country_Lily

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    I would suggest slowly taking things further one new sex act at a time to get her more interested in exploring her sexual fantasies and talk to her about your desires. For example to start off easy you could say you would like to watch her use a vibrator or watch porn together and slowly her sexual desires might be increased and her need to explore would also increase. But in saying that if she is deadset against it, it probably won't ever happen...
     
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    That's a good idea. I will give it a try. She does watch porn with me and she has no problem with me video taping her or taking pictures. So maybe some porn with two guys would be in order. Help get the conversation started.
     
  8. oldkid

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    Maybe this suggestion will work. If she goes for it, problem solved.
    1. Buy her a new cocktail dress.
    2. Give her money for the beauty parlor of her choice.
    3. Tell her she may go out alone or with her girlfriends and pick up a man to go to a hotel with. Tell her you have had a one night stand and want to even things up, so you won't feel guilty.
    4. Tell her she can bring the guy home with her after she has had a night of sex with him.
    Good luck holding your relationship together.
     
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    We have been married for more the 25 years and believe me if she haven't left me yet this won't cause it. Been through a lot together but thanks for whatever that was.
     
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    Oh yes that's a good idea. Also I think sex outside helps lower inhibitions :) good luck.
     
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    be upfront and honest we love new excitement, but discuss it at length between u and your wife first
     
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    That's what needs to be done I'm just nervous about it. Don't know why she has never said no before. Thanks for the advice.
     
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    Exactlly and communication is first.
     
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    Tell her you have fantasies about it and see where that leads
     
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    I would have to agree with the last 3 comments. She is going to be more willing to things with you if you are open, honest and communicate with her verses not. My husband and I have had many talks about this same situation, We also have had a 3 some with my husband, myself, and another man. During that 3 some both of them were also drunk, and my husband got jealous and walked out of the room, why the other man and I continued because we were not done and honestly we were so involved that when my husband said he would be right back we didn't think anything, he just stopped playing with me and said I'll be right back so the other guy and I continued expecting my husband to come back. After about 5 minutes of him not returning we stopped and went and found him sitting out front having a cigarette (which is were we normally smoke). Then things were done. However my husband who planned this with his friend decided it was OK to call me names about it, tell me I was a whore, I was dirty, I cheated ect.
    When I was not even warned about this 3 some, they landed it that night why they were at work and they came home together and ended up in my bed at 630 am, I was sleeping.

    We hadn't discussed a 3 some before it happened, there was no "rules" / "boundaries" set or anything. And I got the punishment for his decision. And here we are 4 years later and we discuss this matter openly, however I still say no not for a while. Because of the hurtful this he said afterwards.

    So I'd highly recommend to be open, honest, and communicate before hand.

    I wish our experience would have turned out different because it was a blast until after. And they guy and my husband were and still are very good friends and there is no awkward feelings between him or I, or him and my husband. The other guy is divorced as well as fixed, and has no interest in anything more then sex which made it even better for us being a couple.
    Just a little bit of our experience and what you can't do to your loving wife. Because it hurts and damages relationships. Mind you I've had 5 sexual partners now and I'm 29. My husband was 4 and I was 16 the 1st time we dated. :rolleyes: