Wife wants to watch me and another woman

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    My wife has expressed interest in threesomes, but she is particularly interested in me being with another woman so she could watch. I said it was a no-go unless she joined in because I am going to be freaked out fucking another woman. I haven't been with another woman since we met. I cheated on my ex wife numerous times and vowed I would never cheat on a spouse again. I think it could open the floodgates in me... if you know what I mean. Any thoughts?
     
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    Just do it. You only live once.

    You don't want to be 90 years old and kicking yourself for the things you didn't dare do.

    Better to regret the things you did, than the things you never did.
     
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    I know where I am in this type of scenerio and it makes me want to ask when she began to express interest in watching you with another woman. I wonder if she really wants to experiment with a lady herself but is reluctant to divulge that fact and finds it easier to avoid mentioning this fantasy and just get it fullfilled in a round-a-bout way.
    I have read that in some cases the partner will do this act as if it were for their benefit, which in that story would make them both very happy, but truthfully they (she) are REALLY wanting to have sex with another person, she allows you to have a threesome, you allow her to have a threesome, Or something like that..
     
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    That is my new mantra, you rock !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:bow:bow
     
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    She has always expressed her desire to have a threesome, but she says she really wants to watch another woman being dominated by me. I still say it's a no-go unless she gets involved. My fantasy is to see her and another woman being passionate- kisses, rubbing, licking, sucking, etc... It will probably never happen anyways it's just something we fantasize about.
     
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    Why is it that you're ok with her and another woman but not yourself and another woman?
     
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    @awakened

    I remember when this thought really started crystallizing in my mind.

    I was in a bar once talking to an older woman. She had led a good life, doing things correctly - got married in her early twenties, had kids and a career.

    After 20 odd years of marriage her husband divorced her for a younger woman. At the same time she was also diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer. She got a burn-out and eventually got too sick to work. To top it all off her kids were complaining that she was wasting their inheritance money on treatment for her cancer (they wanted her to undergo euthanasia which is legal in Holland).

    Anyway, the effect of this story on me has had long-lasting effects. From that point on I decided I would taste everything life has to offer and live life to its fullest potential. This has made me quite hedonistic, but not to the point that I mess my career up or intentionally hurt myself or other people.

    Anyway, back on topic :p Just do it, Luckyduck unless you really think the possibility of negative consequences could undo your relationship.
     
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    I was surprised the responses were telling you throw caution out and just to do it. The highlighted part of the quote is the reason I would advise against it. If you've struggled to become the faithful man you are and fear this may open the floodgates of cheating, then I would have to say leave it alone. Your wife may not realize how hard it was for you to change your behavior and the risk it poses to your marriage.
    Nor do you want to be kicking yourself for stupid things you did which left you alone at 90.
     
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    Just do it like the others have stated. Why doesn't your wife get involved and then you and the woman have sex while your wife watches.
     
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    I'm with Hardrocker.
    I don't understand when a man openly admits that he doesn't think that he could stay faithful (with a past of cheating) if he actually went through with this. He's WORRIED and yet others are giving him advice to go ahead and do it anyway.

    This isn't just another casual sex fling. This is something that generally any man would jump at the chance to do, and yet he's having major hesitation to it.

    Personally,I wouldn't go through with it. If you don't think that you can trust yourself, then don't do it. It's not worth risking your marriage if you love your wife.
     
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    Maybe if he told her the reason why he is having a hard time wanting to do it for her.
     
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    I wonder what the reason for his cheating in prior relationships, dissatisfaction in relationship, no communication, no sex, or just pure "addiction" to sex or what other reason. If the reason he had is not in any way happening in the current relationship/marriage.
    My thoughts on addiction are to stay away from those things you are addicted to.
     
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    I cheated on my former spouse for several reasons, but more than anything I love the thrill of being with a new woman. All the unknowns, the different feelings, different touches, etc... I think the best sex is always the first time you have sex with someone. I was also deployed a lot so I never got caught, but it got bad. I was having sex with women after work and then I would go back to work and shower before I went home. Another reason, I didn't love my ex wife. I know that sounds harsh, but I never loved her. I married her before I could "settle my wild oats" and I think I settle most of them. If i do have sex with another woman I think I could pick up where I left off. I don't think I would feel the same way about a threesome just because it's not likely something that I could do without my wife.
     
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    My outake on this is well I would just fill out of place. You know if I wanted to bang another women with out her involved, I would just go out and do it. My wife wants to be with another girl but with me not involved, thats fine I'm good with that I would get more out of watching that than doing a women while see watched. To get to the point it would just be having sex with another women thats with a crowd. My ex wife and I did engage in a threesome were my friend joined I sat in the chair to watch and she told me afterwards it made here fill like a Porn Slut because I didn't join.
     
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    I am commenting again because I had a long talk with my husband and found what really turns us on and why we want to do the things we do. We invited a female friend over today and I am a little nervous but more excited to see him with her, i am positive it will turn me on and I will join in, she has some f'n hot legs. i will try to post some later tonight.
    Sorry, but i still go go for it, i know I know how your wife feels, if that is in fact how she really feels, if she is a hot horny woman, believe me she wont be able to refrain from joining in. !!!!
     
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    Can't wait to hear how it went, me and my fiance just had our first threesome a few weeks ago and we loved it, she said she was very nervous but it ended up being really great fun.

    As for the original topic of this thread, I believe if you really love your partner and are open and honest about what you both want and you both are willing to come up with working compromises, doing something crazy and scary that you both want will actually strengthen your relationship. After my threesome, me and my fiance were humping like rabbits for days :phat because we were both so energized by the experience. We where normally 5 times a week but after we where like 2 times a day! I'm not saying you should go through with it but, please don't discount it just because you are scared, really discuss all your fears and wants with your partner, open up and really let them know you. Talking about and trying some of these crazy things has brought us so much closer and I thought that it was impossible to get any closer.
     
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    You're a good man, most would jump at the opportunity. And you're a lucky one as well, my wife wants to watch me with someone else...another guy. Not my thing, but I'd do it to fulfill her fantasy and make her happy cause I love her more than life itself.
     
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    This is something that i am interested in also. I want to watch my hubby with another woman i don't know the exact reason just that i think i want to show all the women in the world what ive got however i want it to be someone we dont know and want to be able to join in. The only trepidation that i have is that my insecurities will get the best of me and it will ruin our marriage... if i was you i would just talk to her about do the threesome first then work your way into just sleeping with another woman in front of her im still trying to get up the courage to talk to my hubby about it :uhh:

    Good luck tho!