Wife wants info on prostate massage

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by bcuzbcuz, Sep 27, 2007.

  1. bcuzbcuz

    bcuzbcuz New Member

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    3 months ago I began treatment for depression with Cymbalta. I felt better immediately but my ejaculations stopped instantly as well. I don't have erectile dysfunction; the gear works great. But no matter how hard or how long we try my medication blocks any ejaculation.

    I've contacted a number of doctors and their only message is: Sorry, we know your problem is quite common but there is nothing we can do. Either stop the medication (which I don't want to do) or suffer!

    So far I (and our relationship) have suffered, but now I'm looking for a solution. Apparently, no medication can help with an ejaculation, except to slow it down, which I don't want.

    I asked a urologist if prostate stimualtion or massage would help achieve an ejaculation but he said no research had been done on such a topic. My wife says she thinks stimulation of my prostate through my anus is disgusting and simply refuses to try or even think of the prospect of doing it. She thinks the whole question is "queer".

    I am trying to find out if any one has an opinion on the subject. If ejaculation is a problem, what can be done? Does prostate stimulation help? Has any mediaction been discovered that helps? Is there anything my wife and I can do that will help with my ejaculation? Oh, and by the way, self stimulation, or masturbation, has been an arduous and dissatisfying way to achieve comfort. It works but requires more effort than anyone can possibly imagine. Try imagining three hours of skin rubbing until sores appear to achieve a rather unsatisfactory release....
  2. Bluesy

    Bluesy Gold Member

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    The docs you spoke with were uninformed because there is a way to correct antidepressant-related sexual SEs. It might not work for everyone, but everyone I know who's tried it has had much success: a small dose of Wellbutrin added to your current medication regimen. If your doctor refuses to add it, you can always ask if they'll switch you to Wellbutrin.

  3. Dreama

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    It's a bit of a downer that your wife actually thinks that giving you the only form of release that you can get is 'queer'. I certainly don't. Good luck with everything!
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    dwj21 New Member

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    yeah you should have your wife come one here or do some research. she is very ignorant to sexuality.
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    igor Gold Member

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    Anal stimulation DOES NOT equate with "queer". Many guys (and many gals for that matter) enjoy anal stimulation, all the way from just outer rubbing to insertions. It's just about sensations and feelings.

    I don't know if in your case, prostate stimulation will aid release or not. If I stimulate my prostate, I may get ejaculation (but not an orgasm - some guys say they actually get an orgasm that way). However if I do the prostate the same time as stroking, then I really have an intense orgasm.

    Also, have you tried using a lube when you masturbate?


    I am on two prostate meds and the result is little or no ejaculate from an orgasm. But it doesn't take me any longer than normal to get there and the orgasm is only slightly less satisfying than it used to be.
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    If she doesn't want to do a prostate massage for you, check out a little toy called the Aneros. Espresso got one to see what it's all about he loves it! It's small, goes into the anus, and can just stay there while you have sex. It puts pressure on the prostate for you. His orgasms are much more intense, and he definitely ejaculates more, too. I hope this helps you! It must be awfully frustrating . . .
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    Joe Gold Member

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    bcuzbcuz,
    Would you clarify something for me please. You state that you can't (easily) have ejaculations. Do you have orgasms without ejaculation or is it the orgasm that's difficult to achieve?
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    As most have said, prostate stimulation has nothing to do with being “queer”. My girlfriend and I can vouch for that. In all fairness to your wife however, I can understand her being a little squeamish and it may be best for you to experiment on your own for awhile while she gains acceptance of the idea. My g/f had experience on other guys and I at first, was not interested. She was able to teach me and I think to make it easier on your wife you need to be able to teach her. Both of you trying it together for the first time could make it more difficult and lead to disappointment. I have to warn you that you may not have the response you’re looking for the first go around. There are times when prostate stimulation doesn’t do all that much for me. Practice and concentration is very important. As guys we’re used to being able to get off easily but through prostate stimulation it takes the right frame of mind and patience. Good luck.
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    So would any of you women here be offended or call me queer if I asked you to buttfuck me while you're wearing a strap-on? It serves the same purpose...get my prostate massaged.

    I've bought a strap-on dildo that is small in length and width. Any women here wanna fuck me while wearing it? I've got the lube....:brow