Wife sharing

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  1. curious11

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    I have a fantasy of sharing my wife with another man or at least watching her with another man. Can anyone tell me if this is normal? My wife and I get very horny when we start talking about this when we are having sex, but we are unsure whether to give this a go or not.
     
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    Of course its fine! There are so many people in this world, I think at least 7 billion, someone is bound to share the same views as you! So if you both think its fine, then why not go for it? As long as it doesn't spark any jealousy.
     
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    It is fine; but I don't think it's normal.

    We're usually meant to be possessive beings. That isn't to say it's wrong though.
     
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    We have swapped and 3ways. It is fun watching eachother getting off.
     
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    I have shared my wife for the last 10 years with 7 different men. It started as a threesome after a drunken night with a neighbour to her meeting men on her own and having sex in hotels.
    After these meetings I arrive later and we make love. It is so wonderful and makes me feel on top of the world.

    A word of warning however at first there can be feelings of guilt and jealousy but if you are both totally honest and open with each other then you should be fine.

    Go for it!:)
     
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    There's no way in hell I'm sharing, wife feels the same way. Great way to end a marriage though.
     
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    Or strengthen one. It seems that jealousy and insecurity can't exist in an open relationship. If you're in the small percentage that can have an open relationship.
     
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    Wife sharing and open relationships are a small percentage, but for those who partake I can vouch they have wonderful times, especially the couples who share wives. It's a very powerful affirmation of sexual attraction,
     
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    I read someplace that this is actually not uncommon as a fantasy. Guys think their partners are especially attractive when they are responding sexually, and the majority think their wives are beautiful as they experience orgasm - but are usually too personally involved in the process to fully appreciate it. Watching her respond to another partner is an opportunity to observe her.

    Aside from morals and ethics I think there are three problems. Wives (at least the ones in secure marriages) may have difficulty responding to another guy in the same way they respond to their husbands. And while some women actually find the idea of being watched a turn-on, I suspect there are at least as many who find being watched a turn-off - especially if they think about somebody seeing what their body does at orgasm. Finally there is the issue of emotional attachment to the additional partner.

    Even so, as others mentioned, there are some who find the experience at least pleasurable and stimulating for both husband and wife, and a few who claim it is very fulfilling.
     
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    I don't see this as being a moral or ethical question to be quite frank! If that were the case we would wait until marriage before having sex, we wouldn't have affairs or any of that. The more I think about sexual morals and ethics, the more bizzare I find it.

    The women I have had couples threesomes with had no trouble responding to my attentions and were not at all concerned about being seen by their husbands, but they represent only eight or nine and it's a tiny sample. Having been in multi-men one woman scenarious many times I don't think women find it a turn on to know they're being watched, but I certainly do!

    As far as emotional attachment goes, that would never be a problem. It's a once-off fantasy and she knows that, and certainly the other man knows it. The wife and the other guy have sex, she enjoys the affirmation of her sexiness, she then has sex with her husband and then it's over. The other guy leaves and they get on with the rest of their lives.
     
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    My hubby is into the same fantasy and so far, while we have a man picked out to fuck me, it hasn't happened yet. Turns out it's easy enough to find a man to bang me but finding one that will allow himself to be watched by another man isn't quite as easy.
     
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    Yes that is a common problem and when that happens I step aside and my wife fucks him on her own. To be honest they tend to be les intimidated and a better time is had by the 2 of them and of course I enjoy hearing all about it:)
     
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    I have been reading a lot on the hot wife lifestyle but I personally could not share my wife, if I was married
     
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    I believe you would have to be very secure in your marriage and in your self. I think some guys would have a hard time watching his wife have sex with another man. Thinking about it and doing it is 2 different things......just be very sure before you cross that line....I would hate for you to ruin your marriage.......keep us posted on what you decide to do...:)
     
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    Yes you are quite correct with this Barb, which is one of the reasons I have had a lot of couples activity over the past few years. I enjoy being watched while I have sex, regardless of the husband naked on the bed ready to take over when I'm finished or merely there to watch. The ones with the fantasy to watch only and not participate have told me that not so many men are willing to be watched by another man, but they are around if you look.
     
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    Hey I'm new so I hope I'm doing this correctly. I have the dame fantasy and would like to hear more from woman on this subject
     
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    I get off on being watched, hence my litany of public places I've fucked at. It's great fun. But I would probably be in prison if someone touched my girl.
     
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    I had my roommate once who wanted me to do his girlfriend while he watched, she was all for it, but I didn't do it, because I knew he would want the favor returned someday, I was single at the time, and I'm not into to sharing my girls at least not with him anyhow.
    I did have sex with her after she broke up with him and nobody else was watching.
     
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    I have shared my N.E. Ohio wife in the past and enjoyed watching. I would love to find some new friends to help me get her back sharing
     
  20. alwaystry

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    I am not married , however , in the past I have shared my gf and it was very hot. It went great for us but everyone invlolved must be on the same level , no jealousy , and prepare for unexpected feelings