Hello ladies and guys: I need some advice/help. My issue is that my wife has a Rabbit that she ordered and she only plays with it alone. I don't have a problem with toys at all. However I think using the Rabbit diminishes her interest in sex with me because she uses it during the day and satisfies herself. This is especially of concern because a few months ago, I found out that she was having a 2 yr affair with a single friend of ours and she committed to have no contact AT ALL and to end it, and I'm sure she has. Had it not been for having 18 yrs invested in the marriage and having young kids, I would probably have left due to the dishonesty of it all. The toy concerns me again because I think she should invest that energy and desire in our relationship. Am I wrong to be after her for using the toy? Should I just let her get off using it as often as she likes and just accept whatever opportunity I get? She will not play with it with me, saying that would just be a performance/show. I can;t help but believe this is just more replacment of me with another man or machine due to the circumstances. What does everyone else think? BTW, we are mid-40's and she is thin and HOT!