Since I have been so freely giving others advice on how to improve their relationships, I feel a duty to report my personal setback, so that everyone might fairly evaluate my advice. I expect that my wife and I will get back together, so this title might be overstated and a little overly-dramatic. My wife's mother is out of town for a month, and my wife has to feed her mother's fish anyway, so I guess she is staying at her mom's apartment. When her mom gets back, my wife will have to decide whether to move back home, or actually go ahead and get her own apartment. But the questions still come to mind: 1. Should I telphone W? If she does not answer, should I leave a message? 2. Should I ask W out to lunch from her work? 3. Should I feel bad, or should I try to just go on with what has to be done for the family? 4, Should I continue with my exercise running/jogging program? I jogged on Sunday and Tuesday. I am due to jog tomorrow. 5. Should I start calling up other women who are friends, or should I wait a while longer? 6. Should I tell people that she left, or should I delay telling anyone? 7. Should I tell my close relatives, or just keep them in the dark for a while? 8. Should I make more demands for things I really want, or should I trim back my desires in the marrage, and just try to get back together? 9. How do I handle my feelings of resentment and betrayal? 10. If I feel embarrassed when someone asks about W, should I admit that I feel embarrassed, or should I just guffaw my way out of it? 11. Am I a real man, if my wife left me? 12. Should I tell others to call my wife if they want to know what happened, or should I make up a good story to make myself look good? 13. How about, "Well, the marriage was really just on a trial basis anyway, and it happened that our interests grew in different directions, so I guess it just didn't work out." It is probably too early to really know anything, as she only left a few hours ago, for this first night. Ideas?