Hello everyone, I am brand new to the forum and desperately seeking some guidance. My wife and I have been together for 5 years. She is 7 years younger than me (she is 24) She was a virgin when we met, but it wasn't long and we were having sex. At first the sex was good, but about 4 months after we became sexually active she became pregnant. But after MUCH discussion we decided to terminate the pregnancy because we hadn't been together long and she was only 19 and was scared. Everything seemed to go back to normal for a few months after the termination, our sex life was still good, we ended up getting married about 6 months later, about 3 months after we got married, her desire for sex completely went away, like turning off a switch. She want's nothing to do with sex in any way shape or form, I can do anything to try to exite her and nothing works, she does not get wet, she never gets aroused, and never initiates sex. I can run my hands all over her body and play with her when we are in bed and she gives me no response at all. It has been like this now for 3 years. We have had sex maybe 5 times in 3 years and that is only because I practically had to beg for it. We have seen a doctor and had tests done on her hormone levels and everything seems normal, the doctor had her go off the birth control pill thinking that may be the cause of her low libido, and that did not help. I have tried everything and am just about out of ideas. She is extremely shy and trying to talk to her about these problems results in her getting mad and refusing to talk about it. She does not want to see another doctor, and she doesn't want to go to counselling when I suggest that. I know for a fact that she is not cheating on me, and she says she still wants me when I ask her.. however there is never any sex. I have been very patient but am starting to get very frustrated. We are very happy in the rest of our relationship, other than the lack of sex everything is fine. Sorry for being so long winded.... Can someone point me in the right direction? Willing to try almost anything at this point. Thanks!