Hello Guys and Girls, I 'm new to the forum and I have a problem of great concern and need some advice. My wife and I have been married for 10 years,she is 44 and I'm 36, we have one child that is 9 . We have not had sex in 40 months , yes almost 3.5 years. I not just talking intercourse, we haven't had any kind of sexual relationship at all. She says she hasn't had any sexual desire since our child was born. But that she just took care of me so to think. Then she just quit all together,she said sex was painful and hurt, then about a 1 1/2 year ago she had a hysterectomy . I don't think this is going to get any better. I haven't strayed away yet, but I would really like to get active again. What do I need to do?