Since my wife has been in the change of life our sex life has suffered. When we do have sex I sort as feel as if it is a chore. We lack emotion, spontaneity, lust. I am at a loss, I love sex and pleasing her. She tells me it is her hormones and lack of sex drive but I also know she goes for the toys whenever I am going to be gone for a while. Am I blind, seeing something that isn't there or in trouble?